Well hey y’all!  Can y’all believe that we are almost at the end of Emily’s journey to finding love?  I have to say that this is the first time that I’ve ever been this invested in the final 3 people throughout the history of the show.  Usually by this point, it is pretty obvious whom the Bachelor or Bachelorette is going to pick or I have a definite favorite – but I truly feel like any of these 3 men would be an amazing husband to Emily and a loving father to Ricki!


Let’s chat about the episode for a bit!



Can you imagine being in love with 3 people and not being able to hardcore makeout with them after 2 months?  I bet Emily is going crazy!



Emily writes a little note in the sand and it kinda seems like so ominous foreshadowing to me.  Does she pick no one?  Does she pick someone but it doesn’t work out?  Some people on twitter also alerted me to the fact that a 1F was drawn in the sand above the Emily + ?, but I think this might have been a coincidence.   If it’s not, then holy crap that’s crazy.



Sean shows up for his date in a super deep v – thank God that his chest seems to be hairless and he could pretty much wear anything and still look hot.



They take a ride in a helicopter and I know that it’s loud and not the best time for conversation but Emily kept on making these awkward faces.  I think it’s because they aren’t talking and they aren’t overly affectionate – so she feels a little put out.  I guarantee you that if it was Jef or Arie on this date that it would be an affectionfest.



They sit on the beach to talk and I can’t stop looking at Emily’s headband.  This makes me start thinking about long-hair Michael and then I can’t stop thinking about his headbands.  I hope he’s doing well.



Sean’s right eye is really adverse to sunlight.  At least he gets a cute dimple when he squints.



It’s so obvious that Sean wants to tell Emily that he loves her but he can’t quite get the words out of his mouth!



I think Emily is really disappointed that Sean is still holding back on her.



At least he doesn’t hold back on taking his shirt off. (drool)



Sean writes a letter to Ricki (so many letters this season) and it’s the cutest, sweetest thing ever.



Y’all know how much I hate it when people lick their lips a bunch and Sean was giving me the creepies when he started doing this!



Turns out that he was only wetting his lips to get his mouth ready to utter the words that Emily was longing to hear – “I love you.”



Emily looks so genuinely happy but I have to wonder if the admission of love was too late?



Then they kiss and I was cracking up at Sean’s hand and arm for the next couple of seconds.



He’s like – “Oh no, what do I do with my hand?”



“I should be touching her, right?  Oh no, am I touching her butt?”



Oh Sean, the awkward arm is the worst!!!  Nothing is worse than making out with someone and figuring out what you should do with the arm that is between you or the arm you are laying on!  Awkwardsauce!



As much as I love Sean, I am always waiting for him to use that physical strength to totally dominate Emily and put her up against some more walls.  No?  Maybe I’ve read too much 50 Shades of Grey?



However, it looks like they did have some time to roll around and makeout because Emily is sporting some sweet makeout hair.



Alas, she doesn’t let Sean spend the night (Mommy morals) and sends him home with blue balls I’m sure!



Jef’s date is next and he seems to be the only one that realizes that it is super important for him to meet Ricki before they get engaged.



It’s true!  Those kids will totally be beautiful b@d@$$es.



Just a little observation:  Emily always seems to be begging Sean to show her more affection.  She’s always holding onto Jef.  And she allows herself to be dominated by Arie.



I think it’s so cute when Jef asks Emily if she thinks he would be a good dad and why.  I think maybe Jef is really starting to realize that he might be a father soon so he should take things very seriously.



As cute as the answers are that Emily gives Jef, I don’t think they are what will make Jef a good dad.  I think Jef will be a good dad because he is fun-loving, shares the same morals with Emily, and places a strong importance on family.



Jef basically says here that he didn’t understand their love at the beginning since it’s been a messy whirlwind but when he takes a step back – it’s like a masterpiece.  This reminds me of a quote from Clueless where they says people can be Monets (look hot from far away but they are a mess up close) and then I realize that Jef kinda reminds me of Christian but I’m hoping that Emily and Jef have a much happier ending.



Emily really likes Jef in case you couldn’t tell.



At dinner, Jef is the one with tough questions for Emily.  This one kinda made me laugh.



Emily wasn’t expecting this question at all!



But I think she answered it well!



However, I don’t think she expected this from Jef on this night!



So she makes a move to shut him up!



Then she gives him the fantasy suite date card and asks him what he thinks about it.



And he turns her down!  You can see the disappointment on her face even though she was totally not going to let him stay the night!



Emily’s lady parts must have some serious self-control.



Speaking of lady parts – It’s Arie time!

On a serious note, don’t we all want to be greeted with a kiss like this everyday?



Swoonie swoon swoon.


I’m warning y’all now – there’s a lot of kissing pictures in this date.



Emily and Arie stop making out to swim with dolphins for a bit.  I am cracking up at Emily thinking dolphins are scary!  A bunch of us Bachelor 15 girls just went to Cancun together and we all swam with dolphins.  It was seriously one of the happiest moments of my life – my cheeks hurt at the end of the day from smiling so hard!



Then Arie and Emily makeout some more and his hand is showing that obviously, he wants more.



Then they get to dinner, and Emily has some tough questions for Arie…



Like what time does he get up?


I kinda feel like Emily is trying to find reasons not to be so into Arie.  Anyone else feel this way?



It is kind of funny to think of an adult getting up at 9:30 everyday but he is a bachelor with a pretty unconventional job – this will be easy to change!



Emily is making so amazing faces in this episode!



It kinda seems like Arie is digging himself a hole with his answers but then he totally redeems himself with his answer about how you become close with kids.  You can practically see Emily melting.






Anyone else see this article by Wetpaint yesterday that claimed that the sketch of Christian Grey eerily looks like Arie?



Alas, Emily doesn’t even trust herself in a place with multiple beds around Arie so she decides to not even give him the fantasy suite date card.  She actually cries when realizing that she will not be hooking up with Arie.



I would cry too girl.  Look at the way he’s looking at her!


Ok – the Arie gush fest is over!



Reminder – totally kidding about the Chris Harrison comments.  I just think the rumors are really funny so I like to pretend that something really is happening ;)



It’s so obvious that this is the hardest decision Emily has ever had to make on this show.  I think she wanted more time but that isn’t the way this show works unfortunately and she already used up her extra rose on Doug or Wolfie.





Chris seems to be really sympathetic to Emily’s tough time but it also seems like she really doesn’t want to talk about all this and Chris keeps on pushing her to talk!



I’ve never seen Emily cry this much – for real!


Then she starts watching the video messages that each guy prepared for her and I was LOLing at the faces she made during this sequence.  Some of the faces were downright scary and I could not tell what she was thinking!



Ahhhhhh! Why does she look so mad?



During a side shot of Em while watching Jef’s video, you could totally tell that Em was smiling but it looks like she is trying really hard not to show emotion.



Then during Arie’s video she starts crying and I start thinking that he’s definitely going to go home.



A huge thank you to everyone on twitter that alerted me to this term.  A plum smuggler was a close second.


Those are some tight pants Arie.



The first rose goes to Jef and you can tell how genuinely happy he is to get a rose.



Arie seems nervous.  I am nervous.  Arie looks much better with a tan.



Sadness!  Sean’s face when he didn’t get a rose is totally breaking my heart.  You can tell that he totally wasn’t expecting this!



I wonder if Jef and Arie think it’s a little weird that they are besties and also the final two?



I think maybe I was crying harder than Emily at this point.



Gotta get one last squint in before he leaves.


While I was genuinely sad to see Sean go, it wasn’t really surprising to me that he went home at this point (even though I totally expected Arie to go home – d@mn you spoilers!).  Here’s the thing – Sean was absolutely perfect for Emily on paper – in fact, I think that he was the best one for her there.  However,  I think Emily had deeper feelings for Jef and Arie before she started developing feelings for Sean and there just wasn’t enough room in her heart to give herself to him completely.


Sean – you are perfect and based on my timeline last night, you will have thousands of girls throwing themselves at you.  I think this journey helped you open up and this will serve you well when you meet the perfect person for you.  I wish you nothing but the best and hopefully, you will be the next Bachelor!


So what did y’all think?  Did Sean’s departure completely surprise you?  Is Jef freaking out a little bit at the prospect of becoming a dad?  Will Arie and Emily’s lust last?  Who do you think is the best fit for her?


Remember to head on over to my blog for more commentary on the Bachelor/Bachelorette world as well as my musings on relationships and why Cosmo is bad for you!


Also, every week I’m doing a blog for called Spivey Says!  I give my thoughts immediately after every episode of the Bachelorette and answer any questions y’all have about the show so be sure to send me some questions on twitter – @ashleyspivey!  Head on over to check it out!


*On another note: I’m sorry that everyone’s comments had to be taken down from the last blog.  I had apologized in the comments but it was probably hard to find due to the obnoxious postings of a couple of individuals.  I am truly sorry to anyone that was offended because that was not my intent.  Please try to always read my blog knowing that it’s supposed to be read in a light-hearted way and to take it seriously means that you aren’t getting the point of this blog.  All of the pictures are either direct quotes from the show or fictitious thoughts that make sense with funny faces.


The whole reason that I started this blog is because I saw how seriously people reacted during Ashley’s season and I wanted to remind people that this is just a reality show and you can’t take it too seriously.  With that said – Dave, Natalie, Dana, and Kacie all write wonderful blogs too so if you don’t like mine, there is plenty of other material to read.*




  1. Ashley, I look forward to this blog every week! I was SHOCKED that she sent Sean home, but I agree that he looked good for her on paper, but her feelings for Jef and Arie are much stronger. Both guys would be good for her and Ricki, but I’m of the opinion that things would work out better with Jef, based on how the hometown date went, and how his family felt about her….I don’t know how well she would be able to blend into Arie’s family…I guess I’ll just have to wait and see! Can’t wait for Men Tell All!

    Comment by Megan — July 10, 2012 @ 12:56 pm

  2. I think Emily has three great guys and I am sure that her decision is going to be very difficult. What disappointed me most about this episode is that she couldn’t understand why Sean had not told her that he loved her. It seems she thinks everyone should fall in love with her, because she is Emily! I think Sean had strong feelings for her, but I think he told her he loved her in the end just because he was afraid she would let him go if he didn’t. She finally pressures him into saying it and then she lets him go. Why did she want him to say that when she knew he was going. Not nice.

    I think Sean would have been the best choice for her, but it is her life and hopefully she will make a wise decision.

    Comment by tj — July 10, 2012 @ 12:58 pm

  3. Jef is no friend of Dorothy, how dare you compare him to Christian! Though both appreciate a good shoe. Bring on the Clueless references ;)

    Comment by Amanda — July 10, 2012 @ 1:03 pm

  4. You point out the funniest faces on here! I thought the helicopter ride was a bit awkward too, but didn’t know why until you freeze-framed Emily’s faces. haha! I think her faces were her “game face” trying to gear up to let Sean go after just hearing him gush his love for her once again. And yeah, I saw her smile at Jef too, but the camera’s made sure to suddenly switch to her backside so we couldn’t see as much and guess she was giving him a rose.
    I thought she was trying to find a reason to let Arie go too. I think she kinda has Jef picked out in her head as who she’ll pick, and Sean made so much sense on paper and was such a great catch, she didn’t want to let him go just yet. But Arie talking about winning kids over, pushed him on to the proposal date. Poor Sean. At least he got let go this date and not being dumped after proposing. That has got to be the worst!

    Props to you for apologizing. Hope we can all move on from it this week. Your blog is the thing I look forward to the most every week after watching the show! Thanks for making it so funny!

    Comment by Beth — July 10, 2012 @ 1:06 pm

  5. MOOSEKNUCKLE! I had to leave my work desk very quickly and go to the bathroom I was laughing so hard.
    Arie could take me to his red room of pain any day! And I loved his answer about becoming Ricki’s Dad. So sweet!

    Comment by Amy — July 10, 2012 @ 1:06 pm

  6. It’s a no brainer why Sean got sent home:

    -Sean seems lost in so many ways
    -He told Emily too many times he has commitment issues
    _He said he went on the show NEVER thinking he’d fall in love-then why go on the show?
    -He said all his past girlfriends didn’t make him feel “in love” enough to marry, and he tells Emily, “he hasn’t felt this way in a LONG TIME,” meaning, I think you’re pretty but you’re not any different than the others!!!
    -He basically said his 3 year ex girlfriend was only a piece of ass and he would dodge marriage questions

    He gave Emily nothing to go on to trust. He needs to wake up in the love department and show some ambition. I think some men go on this show just to try to get a piece of ass!!!

    Jeff- He’s so genuine. The best pick for Emily. I think every women always likes the rich spoiled guy too.

    Arie- He’s so cool and loving.

    I hope Emily means it when she answers the guys questions on where she wants to live, cuz in Brad’s season, his family asked the same question and she said she would move to Texas, and after the show that was clearly not gonna happen. Hope she found love, she has been the best Bachelorette to watch and so cool and classy.

    Comment by Sasha — July 10, 2012 @ 1:07 pm

  7. Sasha wtf kind of comment was that?
    Arie has dated over 15 women, he even has playboy & bunnies linked on twitter (and visited playboy mansion), and you talk about Sean “wanting ass”?

    This is the problem with some of Jef and Arie fans, its how they twist things around.
    So “Sean” is not marriage material, but Arie who date 5 women every year and hangs with playboy bunnies is the real deal?

    Comment by Angry S — July 10, 2012 @ 1:11 pm

  8. I love your blogs they crack me up and I normally agree 100%! I hope she ends up with Jef he seems like the best fit to me!

    Comment by Lindsey — July 10, 2012 @ 1:12 pm

  9. Funny blog, as always! I loved the Chris Harrison picture about joining him in the fantasy suite! Ha ha! And your comments on the pictures of Emily being interrogated by Jef! Definitely rooting for Jef, and I feel like she will pick him in the end, but if he is the one engaged to Emily, that had to be tough for him to watch last night! Probably also a bit awkward if Jef and Arie are still friends.

    Comment by Ella — July 10, 2012 @ 1:13 pm

  10. @Angry S, from a woman’s standpoint, Arie showed all the right moves and all the right things to say. He showed he knows how to start a relationship. He also spoke of his ex in the beginning in a manor that he tried with her and she didn’t want to commit. Sean on the otherhand said repeatedly he has a hard time committing even with women he is supposedly in a relationship with. Which means he lies to the women and they are basically a piece of ass!!!

    Comment by Sasha — July 10, 2012 @ 1:16 pm

  11. Sasha, how do you explain Arie’s past show girlsfriends in their early 20′s that he keeps breaking up with?
    I don’t care what he says infront of a camera, his past says another thing.
    Atleast Sean and his family was honest. Arie wasn’t.
    Even the Cassie thing shows his dishonest.

    Comment by Angry S — July 10, 2012 @ 1:19 pm

  12. THIS BLOG IS HILARIOUS!!! Love it and I’m so glad that the website decided to publish it so quickly after the show aired, I can’t wait for it every week! Ashley you are so so so funny!

    Comment by Ashley B. — July 10, 2012 @ 1:19 pm

  13. sorry, meant “pre-show” English is my third language (… im from Europe)

    Comment by Angry S — July 10, 2012 @ 1:20 pm

  14. I totally understand her being in love with 3 guys. Those guys are all so amazing. I don’t know if editing is different or whatever, but it must be hard choosing from 3 such guys that she has so much attraction and connection with.
    With that said, she told how hard it was for her watch Brad with the other girls and with Brad it was always clear, to me at least, that he’d pick Emily (Sorry Ash;) but come on I know you won’t say it here, but I’m pretty sure you had better connection with over 50% of the girls there rather than Brad, including Emily:P) – he was constantly reassuring her and going out of his way to tell her that she’ll be the one in the end (not completely directly, but almost, I can’t believe the show didn’t edit it out). And they opened up how it was so hard for her to watch him with the other girls.
    So my point is here how will her final guy (whoever he is) feel about her saying she’s in love with all 3, kissing that passionately with every boy there and wanting to jump them (again although I don’t blame her). Not to mention their families?
    As exciting as this season has been, since it is hard to say which of the 3 guys is more perfect for her, I hope this doesn’t ruin her relationship. The one she chose (if she chose anybody, which I’m sure she did) couldn’t really have enjoyed this episode so much?

    LOL, I love how honest she was about not trusting herself enough to give Arie fantasy suite date card. Complete understanding for that!

    And your caps with Emily and Jef……: BEST THING EVER – every time Ashley, every time you make us laugh so hard! LOVED IT. Damn you’re good at this! I’m also sure she was annoyed a little with him, but she can’t help herself from loving the confidence he has to actually be so tough with her. And I’ve noticed too how she always holds his arm with both hands. That is my favorite thing this whole season.

    Sean broke my heart when he had the talk with her before going home. But he’ll be fine, just give him some time, she’ll have pretty much almost every girl in the world to pick from.

    Comment by SJ — July 10, 2012 @ 1:25 pm

  15. AMAZING blog–as per usual! :) Thanks Ashley S! I still love Jef for Em! I think Arie is too much lust for Em that will sizzle out and that he has too much of a party fast-moving, bachelor lifestyle for her and Ricki! I think Jef is more mature and willing to change his lifestyle to be w Em and Ricky–he’s also the only one that consistently brings up talking about Ricky w Em!

    Comment by M — July 10, 2012 @ 1:26 pm

  16. @Angry S, I’m not concerned with off camera material, I am commenting on the show, and it’s clear why Sean got sent home, he scared Emily away with his insecurities. He made it to the final 3 and is still talking about that he has had a hard time with other women. He should have been over it before he went on the show and should have focused on romancing Emily. He was too late!

    Comment by Sasha — July 10, 2012 @ 1:27 pm

  17. Love your blog so much…I refresh it constantly until the latest post has been published! I don’t read comments because I’m trying not to read spoilers but it’s silly that anyone would give you a hard time for what is supposed to be a fun thing. Please keep writing!!

    Comment by Julie — July 10, 2012 @ 1:29 pm

  18. Sasha, I don’t think that Arie actually said all of the right things. He would be a bad choice and seems like a horndog. Sean was a true gentleman and would have been the best choice but wasn’t as exciting as Arie. Am I the only one who noticed that during their video “pleas” that Arie was the only one who did not mention Ricki??

    Comment by Max — July 10, 2012 @ 1:31 pm

  19. And love the scary faces you captured of Emily watching the videos! She’s good at making creepy faces.

    Also couldn’t help but being affected by spoilers. Somebody who is a part of the show should look over comments at this page (which is bachelor page) and approve or disapprove comments before they get posted. Both spoilerwise and otherwise if you know what I mean…

    Comment by SJ — July 10, 2012 @ 1:35 pm

  20. My friend ran into Jeff (we live in Utah so tons of my friends have) and he was on the phone with arie! They were talking like best buds. Because of that I thought arie was going home because it would be awkward for them to remain friends if they were the final two. Guess I was wrong!

    Jeff has always been my favorite but I worry he is too free spirited to be a dad Right NOW. I think Sean was just a tad boring, but I totally think he was the one most ready to be a dad and most willing to marry Emily right away. Because of that, I am very sad to see him go.

    Comment by Gal — July 10, 2012 @ 1:38 pm

  21. Oh and one last thing since I had to read some of the other comments ;) I must say I was concerned about – while watching Sean and Emily on date – his comments about being with a girl for 3 years, but not seeing them in the end. Then why lead her on for 3 years?! This is a tv show Sean, everything is fantasy and made so you can fall in love (cruel I know), so of course he is in love with the fantastic, perfect Emily now, but none of us are perfect all the time. So if he couldn’t see marriage with someone he was with for 3 years, then how would he propose to someone who he has known (with cameras around) for 3 months?!

    Comment by SJ — July 10, 2012 @ 1:48 pm

  22. @SJ, I agree about your comment on Sean not being ready.

    Comment by Mindy — July 10, 2012 @ 1:53 pm

  23. Jef has been my pick for her from weeks ago. I think she has a stronger physical connection with Arie, but lets be real…Jef is so infatuated with her, he will treat her like a queen the rest of her life, and I also think he would be a better Dad. Arie and her spend most of their time making out, and that gets old. Not to mention, he has a career that keeps him travelling. I think Jef is the smarter choice.

    Comment by Tiffany — July 10, 2012 @ 1:55 pm

  24. Great Blogg, soooo funny!!

    Comment by Kourtney — July 10, 2012 @ 1:59 pm

  25. I honestly felt like she kept Arie and sent Sean home so that she could still have the steamy make out sessions since she and Sean didn’t seem to have that physical passion. That theory totally depresses me, but it seems to happen every year, even down to the bottom two (Vienna & Courtney). It looks like Jef is the front runner now because he seems the most willing to step into the father role and the physical stuff with Arie will die down eventually. Surely Emily must see that too.

    Comment by Hannah — July 10, 2012 @ 2:01 pm

  26. Maybe Sean just felt awkward because there are so many people around. Not everybody is a huge fan of PDA

    Comment by vicky — July 10, 2012 @ 2:05 pm

  27. “I am truly sorry to anyone that was offended because that was not my intent.”

    It wasn’t your “intent”, but you did HURT. How could you do that and think you wouldn’t offend people? That, in itself, is BIGOTRY.

    Comment by Cinch It — July 10, 2012 @ 2:07 pm

  28. I think Sean was a little camera shy because letting his family (or the world) see him at his most initmate moments is just not in his nature. He is a southern gentleman and I totally understand why he would feel that way. I am sure it was against the way he was brought up and has caused him to be misunderstood. Not everyone lives like they are on The Jersey Shore. I think that’s why he had such a hard time telling her that he loves her and why he ran to her suv after the hometown date for that kiss that was mostly off camera.

    Comment by Sherry — July 10, 2012 @ 2:10 pm

  29. AHAHAHAHAHA I laughed so much about Sean’s awkward hand, gonna have to rewatch that scene now.

    I genuinely thought that Arie was going home. Though I have to say he is a swoon swoon swooner, I just don’t see him with Emily.
    In the private videos, he was the only one who didn’t mention Ricki…And I just don’t see her with his family.
    Speaking of the private videos: I also realized Emily’s faces during these. FREAKING SCARY, you could totally tell that she was trying to stay serious and not show any emotion.

    sigh, ashley. I’ve always and will always love your blogs most of all :)

    Comment by Bee — July 10, 2012 @ 2:10 pm

  30. I love your blog, Ashley! I look forward to your recaps every week and you always get it exactly right. I’m sorry that you had to apologize for anything – you seem like such a genuinely nice person so I can’t imagine how you could offend anyone :) Keep up the hilarious posts, I’ll be reading!

    Comment by Zoe — July 10, 2012 @ 2:10 pm

  31. I was hoping you’d pick up on Sean’s awkward arm grab! As soon as it happened I thought “This better be a screen shot on Ashley’s blog.”

    I was hoping she would send Arie home because I’m rooting for Jef and I thought he had a better chance against Sean then he has against Arie. I’m scared Emily might let her hots for Arie blind herself from seeing that Jef has the whole package and not just a passionate package like Mr. Mooseknuckle-StupidHot-HairGrabbing Arie over here.

    As much as I like watching Arie kiss… I feel like that’s ALL I’ve seen him do all season long and he definitely has not shown enough interest in Ricki to be my favorite for Emily.

    Jef is sweet, romantic, funny, hot (he doesn’t show it like Arie does… but he’s sure got it), and a total family man. Team One-F all the way.

    Random: Ever thought about how in the Bachelor/ette you (hopefully) end up engaged to someone who you couldn’t technically call your “boyfriend/girlfriend” before the proposal?

    Comment by Kelsey — July 10, 2012 @ 2:12 pm

  32. More credit should be given to Arie’s potential parenting skills. After all, among the 3 he is the only one that has actually lived with a single mom (his ex-GF) that has 2 kids, and they split because she didnt want more kids and he did. So he knows. He doesn’t have to keep proving himself as a potential father in each date, and neither does he need to be assured by Em that he will make a good dad. He knows he will. Been there. He is clearly getting the physical/chemistry edit by the show, whereas Jef is getting the father/Ricki edit. I like both Jef and Arie for her, all am saying is give Arie a little bit more credit and insight beyond the physical chemistry edit he is getting.

    Comment by RHP — July 10, 2012 @ 2:13 pm

  33. I really enjoy reading your blog! Great job! You bring a hilarious twist on the whole show. Keep it up! Looking forward to future posts!! I have to agree with some of the comments. Arie and Emily just suck face. It seems (or has been edited for us to believe) that her and Jef have a much deeper connection. They are physically attracted to each other as well, but there is more to a relationship than physical attraction. Team Jef all the way!

    Comment by Tabby — July 10, 2012 @ 2:15 pm

  34. This show is not for conservative types. Save people time and aggrivation and stay home.

    Comment by Melody — July 10, 2012 @ 2:17 pm

  35. Also, one of the things about her scary faces during the videos… While I could totally tell she was keeping back smiles at certain points, it’s really easy for the editors to take a shot of her face at any point during any of the videos, mute that clip, and have the audio from one of the guys’ videos playing during that clip. If I was her, the editors would have HAD to do that because there would be no keeping me from smiling at some of the things they said.

    Comment by Kelsey — July 10, 2012 @ 2:18 pm

  36. Agree, Jef is the smartest choice. Sean is not ready to be committed yet, he seems still doesn’t know what he wants. Arie, he could be great as a fuck buddy for Emily, have fun with him and throw him out. They just have physical connection and that’s it. He is not husband material!

    Comment by Tina — July 10, 2012 @ 2:29 pm

  37. I think this was your funniest/best blog of all! I absolutely loved it!!!

    Comment by Kelly — July 10, 2012 @ 2:31 pm

  38. Love your blog! It’s the only one I look forward to and never fails put q smile on my face!

    Comment by kara — July 10, 2012 @ 2:35 pm


    Comment by Cinch It — July 10, 2012 @ 2:35 pm

  40. Love your blog. I also thought that Arie was headed home bc of spoilers/her questioning of him at dinner/her face when viewing his video. I was happy to see Sean leave, just because I didn’t think they had as much of a connection as the others. I am still holding out for Arie, but I think she will pick Jef and I hope it works out between them. I’m worried by the previews for the finale though! Makes it seem like she doesn’t pick anyone. But that couldn’t be the case, because if so they wouldn’t give away the ending so easily!

    Comment by Sarah O — July 10, 2012 @ 2:38 pm

  41. @Cinch it, please stop with your Bigotry comments, you’ve exhausted it a thousand times!!!It’s becoming “time warpage”. Move on!!

    Comment by Lacey — July 10, 2012 @ 2:54 pm

  42. I think it would be hilarious and the best show ever if Arie and Jef were double bachelors. The two are awesome buds and it would be entertaining to watch. lol.

    Comment by Lindsay — July 10, 2012 @ 2:56 pm

  43. Arie = Awesome… Best bachelor ever!

    Comment by amy — July 10, 2012 @ 2:58 pm

  44. @Lindsay, I agree. It’s time for change. I’d like to see a team of Bachelors/Bacheloretts too.

    Comment by Kerri — July 10, 2012 @ 2:59 pm

  45. Reading some of the comments has me thinking. Even though Sean said he dated someone for 3 yrs & didn’t see them marrying. Maybe being younger at the time was a factor? Wasn’t ready at that time in his life? He saw some qualities which had him saying, “Well, she’s not the right one?” Over time we all learn lessons, which I think Sean did see he could step forward & give Emily his heart, love little Ricki. Sean said he was seeing himself marrying Emily so his fear of committment was ready to fall away & say “I Love You”, being careful,taking time to sort out your feelings & thoughts only showed how serious Sean actually was.

    Comment by Lynette — July 10, 2012 @ 3:00 pm

  46. Sean’s ex for 3 year was the model/cheerleader:

    Brooke Sorenson

    … Emily look-alike?

    Comment by Angry S — July 10, 2012 @ 3:07 pm

  47. Please go to syndrome-dvs/ for an understanding about Christian men and the deep V. :)

    Comment by Jess — July 10, 2012 @ 3:14 pm

  48. Arie spoke about being Ricky’s friend first… Jef is clearly able to act on it… Any kid would think he was the coolest. What with his skateboarding skills, pillow twirling mastery, love of sports, love of goofiness, love of life… who wouldn’t get along with him and be his best friend. I would want to be his best friend too! Well best friend and a whole lot more :) . Also, Jef doesn’t only talk about becoming Ricky’s best friend. He also mentions how he would teach her things about love, life, and anything that she may need. A guy who hasn’t seriously thought about being a father could not give such profound insight about what it means to him to be a father. If I could pick out three best guys from the entire franchise they would be Jef, JP, and Ames… no offense to any other guys. What they all have in common is the cool factor, the genuine honesty, the laid back vibe, the great style, and all three are just over all great human beings.
    Arie……… I just don’t know! I am not into him at all… I was sooo rooting for him to go home last night. I wanted to shoot my tv when she called his name :) kidding! I’m sure he is a great guy. I mean even Jef thinks he is awesome. But the overall connection with Emily just does not do it for me. Yes you can kiss, but buddy show some variety… She can’t just kiss you for the rest of her life. She needs someone who she can communicate with and who little Ricky will be able to communicate with. What happens when they get home… They can’t just sit and kiss while Ricky is there. Communication is key! And Arie hasn’t delivered so far.
    Sean…. class act. genuine, handsome, manly, and a great person. Wish he stayed for another week.
    I think she may not get engaged to anyone on the final episode but she will at the AFR. I hope and pray it’s Jef.
    And lastly, Ms. Ashley Spivey… what a great person you are. Thank you for taking the time out of your busy life to make us laugh. You have a talent for writing and I would definitely pick up a book form you if you ever write it. It would be a master piece.

    Comment by Armina — July 10, 2012 @ 3:17 pm

  49. Ashley, I was smiling so hard reading this blog. You’re so funny and I think this is one of your best blogs yet! Jef with one F is my pick :) Keep up the good work! @Cinch It- Get over yourself. Seriously. Ashley has already apologized and explained herself. If you’re really still mad,then that is your issue not hers. If you’re going to keep berating her even though she’s said she is sorry and this is a whole new blog, then don’t write anything at all. It’s not cool. Ashley, ignore this person whoever he/she is. They clearly are unforgiving and can’t handle the humor and fiction in your blog!

    Comment by Beth Holler — July 10, 2012 @ 3:19 pm

  50. The red room of pain caption made me pee my pants

    Comment by Lindsay — July 10, 2012 @ 3:24 pm

  51. Ashley,

    Why is the Polish bashing sill posted up on your blog from last week? Do you think it’s funny to diss a nationality and when people are upset to pretend to apologize? If you are really sorry, and you are not a racist, then just remove the slurs “Pollack” and “ICK Polish.” Oh and we all know you never posted an apology so please don’t tell us you are a racist and liar… it’s so disappointing.

    Comment by Lisa James — July 10, 2012 @ 3:32 pm

  52. Lisa, what are you talking about? Maybe you didn’t see the apology in the other blog, but there is most definitely one up there! Ashley has already apologized twice now and explained herself. I don’t think she needs to do anything more for anyone. Relax and read a different blog if you hate Ashley and her blog this much. She directed you to other peoples blogs, is it so hard to go and find those? Geeze. I bet you’re the same person “Cinch It’ is. Again, Ashley ignore people who are still mad because you have apologized twice now.

    Comment by Beth Holler — July 10, 2012 @ 3:50 pm

  53. Arie and Emily are a snoozefest to watch at this point. Nothing to talk about so they just suck face… no chance for them! After a season of this I find their dates to be boring. Maybe I’m alone in that!?

    Comment by corey — July 10, 2012 @ 4:02 pm

  54. Great blog as usual, Ashly. I want to stop watching now that Sean is off the show. Sean is more than good looking, he seems “real”. No, he doesn’t fit the mold of fast moving/proclaiming his undying love for Emily after 2 dates/the ridiculous fantasy that is this show. At the end of the day, I would rather end up with the good looking, genuine, consistent, family guy.

    Jeff is weird looking and reminds me of a 14 year old skater and Arie’s family was a little bizarre for my liking. I can’t imagine them cozying up to Ricki.

    Comment by Julie — July 10, 2012 @ 4:06 pm

  55. I am not someone called Cinch It, but nice try trying to discredit a commentator.

    We all know there were zero apologies.

    Meanwhile, Ashley’s racist comments are still posted on last week’s blog bashing Polish people.

    No doubt you’ll come back with another name yourself.

    Comment by Lisa James — July 10, 2012 @ 4:09 pm

  56. Love your blog! I even save a lot of the pictures and email them out to friends (the lines on the pictures are too funny not to). Thanks Ashley!

    Comment by Rachael — July 11, 2012 @ 10:14 am

  57. Ashley, Did you see this?! Check it out-

    Comment by amy — July 11, 2012 @ 10:30 am

  58. The definition of Cinch It! is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

    Comment by Anon — July 11, 2012 @ 10:37 am

  59. i started off not on the jemily train, at all. i just had a hard time picturing them together because jef looks more like em’s little brother than someone she would end up with. but, over the past few episodes, i really see a true ~connection~ (haha) between jef + emily that goes beyond smooching and wanting to jump each others bones. i love that jef asks emily questions and kinda challenges her quiet/shy side. she needs someone a little goofy and unconventional to bring her out of her shell. i also noticed when he asked about where they would live, she was completely down with moving for him – no hesitation. good sign. the only part of me that’s still a bit weary about their future is.. i don’t know if jef is ready to be a dad. saying you’re ready and being ready are totally different. time will tell on that one.

    all of that said, still love me some arie. *le sigh*. i still think that emily + arie have the most physical/sexual chemistry (obvs)! i think he truly does love her. and i’d looovvveeee for him to be the next bachelor if emily doesn’t pick him. oh god, i’m going to cry so hard when/if she doesn’t pick him.

    Comment by merritt — July 11, 2012 @ 10:56 am

  60. Well done Ash.

    Glad to see you finally admit that Arie is your 50 Shades of Grey lust, and that you so want that, even if vicariously through Em. Hehe–now go get it. Nice to hear woman admit that they are into that, the world needs more of that. For realz.

    As to the Polish stuff. Wow, that is just tired already. Lisa James, go take a chill pill and get over yourself. Seriously, laugh more and don’t be so uptight.

    Comment by PunkA — July 11, 2012 @ 11:08 am

  61. Yay the comments are back! Thanks everyone for the comments and sweet words!

    Comment by Ashley Spivey — July 11, 2012 @ 11:21 am

  62. Ashley once again you have made me laugh! I love this blog!

    Comment by Robin — July 11, 2012 @ 11:35 am

  63. Jef 1 F is fit perfects for Emily because he is the same age Ricky!

    Comment by mallika — July 11, 2012 @ 11:42 am

  64. Emily and Arie .. All I can say is edit,edit and more editing. You know that Arie and Emily have had some meaningful conversations , but we only get to see them make out for rating purposes. They Compement each other very well.

    Comment by Mary — July 11, 2012 @ 11:43 am

  65. Those of you who are still upset at Ashley over last week’s blog PLEASE GO BACK AND READ IT! The captions for the pictures are based off of faces that Emily is making, and in the “Polish? Ick!” Picture, Emily is clearly making an ICK face….that doesn’t mean that it is Ashley’s opinion of the Nationality…Please, just read this blog to enjoy it…let the rest of us enjoy it for what it is…light-hearted and funny!!

    Comment by Megan — July 11, 2012 @ 11:45 am

  66. Ashley, ignore the haters. I was reading another blog about the show and the person said “Dutch is the ugliest-sounding language on earth, right behind Vietnamese”. My family is Dutch and I speak the language and I’m sure I could get all butt hurt over that comment but I don’t because I have a sense of humor. The nasty comments and inability to just let it go already do more to cast a negative image of Polish people than anything you’ve ever said because your comments are not mean-spirited.

    Comment by Dee — July 11, 2012 @ 11:54 am

  67. Still go for Arie.. look like he ready to have family and he is not only good kiss ! he fall in love to her very hard.

    Comment by j — July 11, 2012 @ 11:59 am

  68. I think that the real reason she didn’t give Arie the fantasy suite card is that she wants to choose Jef and didn’t want to upset Jef by going into the fantasy suite wih Arie. This way when Jef watches the show he will know that she was trying to be respectful of him and their relationship. Anyone else think of that?

    Comment by Kelly — July 11, 2012 @ 12:12 pm

  69. Your blog is literally my favorite part about the show. I love the show, but I look forward to this all week!!! Thanks for all the laughs!!

    Comment by Erica — July 11, 2012 @ 12:13 pm

  70. SOowhen can we expect to see some posts on the 50 Shades of Ashley Spivey? ME-OOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!

    Comment by PunkA — July 11, 2012 @ 12:25 pm

  71. Ashley that was the best blog I have ever read to date, I laughed so hard that I thought my boss was going to throw me out.
    I thought the fantasy date between Emily and Sean was arkward and boring. Poor Sean-bye buy! Jef is a great guy and says the right thing at the right time but Arie is the man, he is hot and Emily just cannot get enough of him. Their kisses is the best I have ever seen in a long time-can’t get enough of drulling over watching them make out. She was so right by saying she would not be able to trust herself with Arie because with those kisses if Arie got that fantasy date card, a little Arie would of probably been on the way after that night, poor Jef if she pick him in the end, this words will probably haunt him forever. Hope she make the right decision in the end. Arie all the way!

    Comment by Akesha — July 11, 2012 @ 12:43 pm

  72. I thought Jef was so different to last week, all that comfortable intamacy on the HTD hadgone, strained this – he was taking things very seriously. But I get that he’s really trying to see if they would work in RL, he asks her all the right questions, he wants to see where he would fit with Ricki. He made me melt when he said he’d be the ‘second most important thing in Emilys life’ – jeez this guy is unreal! Emily just radiates youthfulness around him, she wears some pretty cute clothes on Jef dates – but dear god, what was the get up for the RC? she looked 40 !!

    Arie has all the moves, but I just get turned off by the hair and head pulling when he kisses. Give me Jefs slow, deep, sweet kisses any day.

    Bless Sean, he was this perfect specimen of a man but he clearly has commitment issues – maybe this experience will help him see that he cant go on believing that perfection is the only thing that will allow him to take the big step of marriage. His exit was dignified and sad, total contrast to Chris last week.

    Thank you Ashley for mooseknuckle, I am gonna use that epression some time soon !

    Comment by Marina — July 11, 2012 @ 12:55 pm

  73. @Lisa, no I am not going to write under a different name because that would make me a coward. Sorry for assuming you were the same person as cinch it, I was just tired of people still being mad at Ashley. As for the apology, very clearly on this blog it says “I am truly sorry to anyone that was offended because that was not my intent.” Either you’re just bitter or you didn’t read the whole blog. Regardless, you need to relax. Like I said, if you’re still mad at Ashley or don’t want to read her blog, go read Dana’s or Dave’s or Natalie’s. I’m sure they’d love your glowing comments about their blogs. Meanwhile, the rest of us will enjoy Ashley’s blog and get a good laugh in.

    Comment by Beth Holler — July 11, 2012 @ 1:02 pm

  74. Every man has his “game” and I think Sean likes to hold back from women to make them want him. Too bad Emily is too smart for him!!

    Comment by Lisa — July 11, 2012 @ 1:12 pm

  75. Great Blog Ashley!!!!You are so hilarious!! I don’t know your day job, buy I hope you’re a professional writer!!!Get it girl!!

    Comment by Kelly — July 11, 2012 @ 1:31 pm

  76. I love this blog…always have, but I must admit that the Polish stuff did make me raise an eyebrow. Sometimes we just need to think things through before we post them. I still think Ashley is hilarious and truly meant no harm.

    Comment by ErikaL — July 11, 2012 @ 1:46 pm

  77. Ashley – I literally wait for two things every week… The Bachelorette… and then your blog! It makes a great show even greater… I die laughing at the pictures and quotes! Puh-lease do one for BP3!
    Forget all the haters, we love you and your hilarious insights… don’t ever stop! You honestly make the show even funnier! I dont think I have ever seen you write anything mean or spiteful, so I dont know what people are complaining about?! Its obviously all tongue-in-cheek, and its hysterical. LOVE YOUR WORK! Go girl!
    (Ps – Moose Knuckle had me choking on my drink) :)

    Comment by Lucy — July 11, 2012 @ 1:53 pm

  78. Love your blog. LOL. I especially loved the pics of Emily’s faces while she was watching the video msgs from the guys. I DIED.
    Rooting for Jef :)

    Comment by Ash — July 11, 2012 @ 2:01 pm

  79. I like Jef but something are missing between him and Emily like a spark and their are disconnect sometime.unlike when she stay with Arie. they are like couple together already.

    Comment by R — July 11, 2012 @ 2:03 pm

  80. I loved Sean and I was so sad to see him go. What a sweetheart Sean is. I just wanted to give Sean a great big hug and tell him how super special and sweet he is. I want Sean to be our Bachelor please ABC. Sean is best suited for Emily. Love him!!!

    xoxoxo Deb

    Comment by Deb Kalin — July 11, 2012 @ 2:16 pm

  81. I think that if she picks Jef it is going to be very hard for him to watch all the make-out sessions she had with Arie, not to mention his family watching. I remember how upset Emily was when she watched Brad with some of the women on his season. I guess she might have better perspective now.

    Comment by Cindy — July 11, 2012 @ 2:48 pm

  82. Thanks so much for your blog this week. It was so entertaining as usual. Sure wish I could have found a guy with your personality and sense of humor.

    Comment by Bobbie — July 11, 2012 @ 3:09 pm

  83. Ashley, your blog is fun and I enjoy your insight and humor. Your style is unique and it makes me laugh every time.

    Cinch It, you’re a mess! Your relentless harping won’t change my opinion of Ahsley. You’re hell-bent on bringing Ashley down but it’s not working. I don’t need you sensationalizing her words and fanning the flames of hate when it’s only your mean-spiritedness that shines through.

    Comment by Kathy — July 11, 2012 @ 3:25 pm

  84. peeps need to calm the f down. holy moly. there is no way that the ones getting so angry are amazing enough in their own lives that they themselves have never said something out of a joke and hurt peoples feelings so stop throwing stones and take a look at yourself. gosh. ashley your blog is amazing and its my fav thing to read every week :) xo

    Comment by laur — July 11, 2012 @ 5:15 pm

  85. I totally think she should have kept Sean and let Arie go…but she’s too hot for him. Which is why he should have gone cuz if she picks Jef, she’s gonna have a hard time explaining all their makeout sessions.

    Arie, I think, would be Brad all over again — lots of physical attraction but very little in common for day to day life with a kid underfoot. He’s definitely not ready to be a dad. He hardly even mentions Rickie or what life would be like together.

    Love your blog! Keeps me laughing.

    Comment by Sherry — July 11, 2012 @ 5:26 pm

  86. Ashley,

    Your racist words will continue to bring forth comments because you keep on displaying nasty and mean jabs at the Polish for Episode 8.

    Curious why you don’t take those remarks down when they offend so many people who have that nationality in their families.

    Do you really despise the Polish that much?

    Comment by Ashley2 — July 11, 2012 @ 5:34 pm

  87. I am sure there was no malicious intent behind Ashley’s words in the episode 8 recap…..accept the apology and move on. I was bullied in the past, and I got over it…it didn’t drive me to tear other people down, and that is what’s being done here to Ashley, don’t tear her down becuase you feel like she wasn’t sincere in her apology….she wouldn’t have posted the apology if that is not truly how she felt. Just lay off.

    Comment by Meg — July 11, 2012 @ 6:18 pm

  88. So funny as always!!!!
    I wanted to comment on something i noticed on the preview for the finale. We see Emily and Arie going to meet Emily’s parents. But we dont see Arie on the last chance date. Jef IS on the LCD according to the preview. Do you think she pulls an “Ali” and sends one home early? It would explain her crying saying she doesnt know how to start the conversation.

    Comment by bachfan — July 11, 2012 @ 6:28 pm

  89. Again very funny blog. I can always count on you for a laugh. Though I think some people went way overboard in their hate of you for what they perceived as your hate of Poles (Pot calling kettle black?), they did have a point that it’s not nice to make fun of any group for simply being that group. You are better off making fun of people’s behavior, plus that is fair. People can control their behavior, but can’t control their ethnicity or appearances (other than clothing related and it’s too mean to give them issues where they feel that plastic surgery is needed). Please don’t use humor as an excuse to be below the belt hurtful and mean. I think had you simply apologized, the anger would have gone away, but your defensiveness and anger at those people fueled more anger your way. Even today’s apology is not a sincere one, but one still encased in excuses. I’m not Polish, but I believe in MLK, Jr. saying that evil exists when good men fail to act in the face of evil. You are no where near Hitler, but prejudice is so insidious, the subtle insensitive things from good people as yourself can inflict a lot more pain than from outright jerks. We like you so your opinion matters, if you were a jerk, we wouldn’t have cared. I see both sides as making mistakes and hopefully we can now move forward and you can chanel your wicked (awesome) humor for more good than evil ( figuratively speaking of course).

    Comment by LOL at "MooseKnuckle" — July 11, 2012 @ 6:59 pm

  90. Do you call yourself a pole, because you seem to have a big stick up your a$$?

    Ashley2. If we didn’t before we do now.

    Comment by Enough — July 11, 2012 @ 6:59 pm

  91. Hey Meg,

    You think it’s okay to make fun of the Polish? Grow up.

    Comment by Ashley2 — July 11, 2012 @ 7:07 pm

  92. Also, I wanted to add that I think that Sean was very lucky to be let go when he was. I wish Jef was let go sooner because I think he’s going to be much more hurt as Emily’s F1 given how she’ a lot more passionate toward Arie. I’ve never seen anyone cry that much since Jason when letting go of their F2, especially someone that in love with their F2 and that conflicted that late in the game. That spells disaster and heartbreak for all concerned. Jef deserves better than that and there are literally thousands of women who would be only about him and no one else. I wonder if this is Emily doing her subconscious relationship sabotaging again. Jef would have made her so happy and Arie would have cheated on her.

    Comment by LOL at "MooseKnuckle" — July 11, 2012 @ 7:13 pm

  93. Are you kidding me right now? YOU GROW UP! Are you still seriously butthurt over this whole thing? Ashley S. has apologized and owned up to what she said. You really need to get over yourself. No one is saying that is okay to make fun of the Polish or any race/nationality/whatever; they’re saying that after a while you need to move on and accept her apology. I too was bullied like Meg and have moved on from it. I could’ve lived my whole life bitter and taken my anger out on others, but then that would’ve made me look bad. Because I know how it feels to be hurt by others, I never want anyone I care about to feel that way, so I always try and stick up for them/defend them when they are being attacked/bullied/what not. It bothers me that even though Ashley has apologized people are still mad at her. If you don’t believe her apology,then that’s too bad. Because I know Ashley and have talked to her about this, I know that she truly means it. You can hate me, Meg, Ashley, etc. all you want and leave mean comments, but the only person that’s going to come out looking bad is you. I hope you have a nice day/night and actually think about things myself and Meg have said.

    Comment by @Ashley2 — July 11, 2012 @ 8:06 pm

  94. Ashley2 the fake–

    Don’t hijack my name and we all know you are Meg and any number of additional people.

    Comment by Ashley2for real — July 11, 2012 @ 8:26 pm

  95. We’ve got some amazing US celebrities who are Polish – Lisa Kudrow is one of my favorites …

    Regarding the word “Pollack” … thought that term was passé?

    Definitely wouldn’t advise labeling any nationality with the word “Ick” — that’s just beyond rude.

    Can’t believe I am reading about this kind of racial prejudice. Is this what college kids at Chapel Hill are saying about the Polish? I am really shocked, seriously.

    Comment by Racist jokes are passé — July 11, 2012 @ 8:37 pm

  96. Ashley2, you think it’s okay to make fun of someone because they look different from you…wear different clothes, have different hair?? No, it’s not…I never said it was okay to make fun of the Polish, in fact I have polish relatives, I would never say that it is ok to make fun of anyone, for any reason….and No I’m not the “Fake” Ashley2….I would NEVER stoop so low, and act like such a coward by changing my name to make myself look better…you think it’s okay to tear people down like this, really?

    Comment by Meg — July 11, 2012 @ 8:40 pm

  97. Meg, you’ve now got Polish relatives too? Sure ya do. Bahahahahaha.

    Comment by Ashley2 — July 11, 2012 @ 9:00 pm

  98. I think Arie looked hot in those white pants! :-) Am I the only one?

    Comment by Kelly — July 11, 2012 @ 9:14 pm

  99. I am really confused and hope someone can explain to me. Emily stated as they were sitting on the bench after he lost out, “I really wanted it to be you”

    Well, if that is what she wanted she was the one who made the decision to send him home. It doesnt add up.

    Comment by Divr — July 11, 2012 @ 9:22 pm

  100. Moose knuckle!! LOL! I didn’t notice the moose knuckle, but I did notice Jef’s butt in his tight skinny pants (as he hugged Sean goodbye)…. Hot!
    I think it was great that Jef asked all those questions but not sure “Fantasy Date Dinner” time was the right time…. I just wanted him to show us more passion …..not talk about how he “can see the end result” or see “their future together” or can’t wait til “they’re a family”…. I wanted him to “rock” her world a bit!
    Hopefully we will see more at finale…. I am still Team Jemily….
    p.s. does “armily” sound good?

    Comment by Josie — July 11, 2012 @ 10:39 pm

  101. I don’t really know how to feel about this episode. I’ve been Team Arie from the start and so I hope she ends up with him. I hate how the editing makes it seem like there is no substance to their relationship but Emily always insists in her blogs that the two have amazing communication.

    I also don’t really understand this whole fake moral controversy with the fantasy suites. Jason was a single dad and showed no hesitation with the fantasy suites. It has never been confirmed (only speculated) that the people go further than 3rd base. So I don’t see why Emily opting out of it all together showed some moral high ground. A lot of the bachelorettes have said that the time was nice to just get to know each other without the pressure of the cameras. When she was with Sean and Jef, the cameras were still there.

    The last note is how the show has approached Jef’s faith. It makes me so uncomfortable how they are going out of their way to avoid acknowledging Jef’s mormon faith. I know he’s not practicing right now but his parents are clearly as are his siblings. It was just weird how they say his parents are off doing “charity work”. Since when is the mainstream Christian faith the only acceptable faith to be discussed on tv…

    Alas, just some of my musings. I enjoy Ashley S’s blog a lot. Very funny and quirky. Glad she wrote a simple apology after the Polish mistep.

    This comment was way longer than I was expecting. Kudos if anyone actually reads this.

    But yeah Team Arie fo lyfe :)

    Comment by FallonA — July 12, 2012 @ 12:07 am

  102. FallonA – you are another fake planted in the comments. Nice try with all the chit chat, but we all know there has been no apology and that the racist slurs are still displayed. Take the racist slurs down if you are sorry. So simple.

    Comment by Ashley2 — July 12, 2012 @ 6:30 am

  103. Y’all are just the sweetest for the kind words and the support! Thanks for taking up for me but let’s just chat about the Bachelorette, mooseknuckles, and which team we are on. Obviously this person is just looking for a fight so let’s not give them one. Everyone has moved on but them. Don’t feed the trolls y’all ;)

    Comment by Ashley Spivey — July 12, 2012 @ 6:31 am

  104. Ummm… i’m a real person. haha My twitter is Fallonam. Feel free to follow me or ask me questions on twitter :)

    Also my post was about whether Emily was truly taking a moral high ground by refusing to take advantage of the fantasy suite dates and whether or not this show has a religion problem. Much more interesting topics if I do say so myself.

    Alas, if anyone has any interesting responses about THAT please let me know!

    Comment by FallonA — July 12, 2012 @ 7:21 am

  105. I would love for Sean to be the next Bachelor. He is the whole package. Also, I have loved reading your blog posts all season. Your captions are hilarious.

    Comment by Sarah E. — July 12, 2012 @ 7:36 am

  106. @Ashley2- that was me writing under @ashley2. I forgot that unlike Facebook, this blog doesn’t put that at beginning so you know that I am talking to you. I was not trying to be be you or be “fake” or anything. Just responding to you. I am not Meg, but I bet she is a wonderful person. The only name I write under on here (besides the mistake I made above with your name) is Beth Holler. The only other name I might use is Anon, but that is in rare cases. Yes, Beth is my real name. I read this blog to laugh and enjoy myself. I also enjoy reading the comments, but it takes away from my enjoyment and many others to be reading peoples anger over something that happened over a week ago and has already been apologized (sincerely) about. I am not going to respond to you anymore after this because you are absolutely ridiculous and I am not going to waste anymore time on you.

    Comment by Beth Holler — July 12, 2012 @ 7:57 am

  107. ICK Polish. Pollack. Why are these racist words posted by Ashley still displayed on Episode 8????? How sorry are we? Wow, Ashley must hate Polish people to leave those hateful terms up. Put up hate and people will react, yeah, that’s what happens.

    Comment by Destiny — July 12, 2012 @ 8:08 am

  108. Beth, you are someone that hangs on Bach coattails with stars in your eyes. At least you like Trista, now there’s a good decision. Stick with the nice ones like Trista and Ashley H. who are prettier inside and out.

    Comment by Ashley2 — July 12, 2012 @ 8:39 am

  109. Wanted to comment on an earlier post on here by Sasha, who I thought had some good points, but said she was concerned about Emily saying she’d move to Texas with brad, then didn’t. Emily has said that she was already to move her and Ricki into an apartment there, but when she discovered Brad’s anger issues (man had a serious temper–even his family said that), she realized it might not be the best situation to put her daughter in. They were so back and forth with “breakin up” all the time over the phone, that she didn’t do it. I think if she finds a man that isn’t going to get into yelling matches over the phone with her all the time, she really is going to try somewhere new.
    Honestly, living in Utah myself, she would fit in SO WELL here. Plus, she’s got one of her BFFs, Michelle Money, out here to hang with a bit. I think she’d like it. Jef even seemed willing for them to go somewhere totally new for the both of them, just to have their own adventure, rely on each other, and have some time to become a family.
    Jef and Arie are similar in a lot of ways (which is why they have a Bromance going and are the last two standing). Emily is attracted to this “type” of guy. Both are fun, light-hearted, bring out this in her, and give her self-confidence. Both aren’t the jealous type and told each other all about their dates the whole show, and would attend each other’s weddings (according to Jef’s interview). Both want to be dad’s and have seriously dated women in the past that had kids. Both successful, hard working men who also know how to have fun, express their feelings for a woman, and make her feel unconditionally loved.
    I think the difference is Arie is a bit of the cassanova type with physical affection and Jef is able to express it with words. Arie’s got a bit of a past, Jef doesn’t. Arie would take her to the fantasy suite in a heartbeat, Jef respected her, their families, and little Ricky too much to do so. Arie lived with his fiance for a few years (and her kids), Jef believes as Emily does that you should just get married and not do that as it gives you a feeling that you can “get out at any time”. In short, the difference between the two guys she hsa left boils down to the morals they live their lives by. In the end, I think she will pick Jef because of this. Just my opinion :) Love reading all the opinions on here.

    Just Ignore the people who keep bringing up stuff about last week. The gal apologized, we all know it and these poeple are just trying to stir up trouble/get attention.

    Comment by Beth — July 12, 2012 @ 8:56 am

  110. FallonA–I think Emily’s point in not having the guys stay overnight without cameras is that everyone would assume she slept with each of them, and she wants to make it clear to America, her family, and her daughter that she did not do this. She leaves no room for doubt or speculation, thus upholding that a moral standard should be kept. Others may not have slept with their over night visitors either, but we’ll never know! The show certainly edits it to make you believe they did. Some Guy in Austin’s blog during the Emily/Brad season said the word around town was that Emily couldn’t get over that Brad slept with Chantel when he had already told her he was going to pick Emily. He said all this at after the final rose too. Who you sleep with, when, and why is obviously a hot topic for Emily.

    I think she has a strong connection and communication with Aire too (though I’m TeamJef :) . They just show the kissing because…well seriously, who else is making it look that good? :)

    I think the Mormon thing with Jef isn’t being brought up because there’s not a lot to bring up? He doesn’t openly practice it, though if you know the LDS religion at all, you’ll hear him quote different phrases and philosophies from it (i.e. not living together before marriage, importance of strong families, even his “bridle our passions” comment is a phrase from the Book of Mormon). Obviously his LDS background has had a major influence on who he is today, weather he practices its standards or not. He said that in the episode where they talk in the library, they had a huge talk about beliefs and morals. Obviously if he is still in the game, Emily was not turned off by this, his beliefs, or morals. The show also didn’t go into detail about Sean or Ryan’s beliefs, though they both dropped enough phrases and thoughts to show they have deep Christian convictions as well.

    Anyway, just my two cents, trying to address your question :)

    Comment by Beth — July 12, 2012 @ 9:09 am

  111. Ooooh, good speculation! I hadn’t thought about her sending one of them home early, aka Ali with Chris. Good observation, wonder of this happens?
    Personally, I think it’s a great idea as you don’t have to deal with breaking up with someone you really care about, right before getting proposed to (as Ashley did with Ben and JP). Just let proposal day be happy the entire day!

    Comment by @bachfan — July 12, 2012 @ 9:13 am

  112. Ashley Spivey just as beautiful, inside and out, as Ashley H. and Trista. I defend everyone who needs it, not just Ashley or people in the franchise. I stick up for people I don’t even know. Sorry my heart is so big! Btw, I would never and will never compare Ashley to her best friend Ashley H. :)

    Comment by Beth Holler — July 12, 2012 @ 9:45 am

  113. Ashley’s anti-Polish remarks remain posted on the Episode 8 recap. Wow, she thinks that’s OK?

    Here are some Polish celebrities who probably don’t agree that their families are ICKY:

    Jake T. Austin (born 1994), actor
    Nick Adams (1931–1968) film actor, mother was Polish-American[1]
    Grant Aleksander (born 1959) film and daytime actor Guiding Light
    Stanley Andrews (1891–1969) Radio and TV actor
    David Arquette (born 1971) American actor, film director, producer and screenwriter (maternal grandfather Polish Jewish immigrant)
    Joe Augustyn (born 1952) screenwriter, movie producer. Both parents Polish-American.
    Carroll Baker (born 1931) film actress and author [2]
    Christine Baranski (born 1952) film, theater and television actress[3]
    Kristen Bell (born 1980) film/television actress (Veronica Mars)[4]
    Maria Bello (born 1967) Academy Award-nominated actress[5]
    Jack Benny (1894–1974) American comedian, vaudevillian, and actor for radio, television, and film
    Carlos Bernard – TV actor (24)[6]
    Charles Bronson (November 3, 1921 – August 30, 2003), born Charles Dennis Buchinsky
    Mayim Bialik (born 1975) American actress
    Alex Borstein (born 1971) American actress, voice actress, writer and comedian
    Lisa Boyle (born 1968) actress and model[7]
    Pesach Burstein (1896–1986) Israeli-American, Polish American actor, comedian, singer and director of Yiddish vaudeville and Yiddish theater
    David Burtka (born 1975) TV and Theater actor
    Jennifer Connelly (born 1970) Academy Award winning actress; her mother is a Jew from Russian and Polish origin [8]
    Robert Conrad (born 1929) TV actor born Konrad Robert Falkowski
    Elżbieta Czyżewska (1938–2010) Polish-born award winning theater, film and TV actress.[9]
    Janice Dickinson (born 1955) model, reality television star, her mother is of Polish heritage
    Dagmara Dominczyk (born 1976) Polish-born actress [10]
    Marika Dominczyk (born 1980) Polish-born television actress
    Anne Dudek (born 1975) television actress (Mad Men, House M.D.)
    Alexis Dziena (born 1984) TV & film actress (When in Rome)
    George Dzundza (born 1945) TV & film actor
    Jesse Eisenberg (born 1983) actor
    Peter Falk (1927–2011) American actor
    Estelle Getty (1923–2008) American actress, who appeared in film, theatre and television
    Katerina Graham (born 1989) TV & Film actress (Vampire Diaries)
    Gilda Gray (1901–1959) actress and dancer[11]
    Alice Greczyn (born 1986) Actress
    Marilu Henner (born 1952) television actress, (Taxi) and health book author, her father is of Polish descent [12]
    John Hodiak (1914–1955) Film actor
    Bonnie Hunt (born 1961) is a two-time Golden Globe– and an Emmy Award-nominated American actress, comedienne, writer, director, television producer and daytime television host of The Bonnie Hunt Show
    Scarlett Johansson (born 1984) actress, (Lost in Translation), her mother is Jewish (of Polish and Russian origin)
    Jane Kaczmarek (born 1955) actress (Malcolm in the Middle)
    Nina Kaczorowski (born 1975) actress, stunt woman, model and dancer
    Harvey Keitel (born 1939) Academy Award-nominated American actor
    Ted Knight (1923–1986) Emmy award winning film and television actor (The Mary Tyler Moore Show, Too Close for Comfort)[13]
    Linda Kozlowski (born 1958) Actress (Crocodile Dundee)[14]
    Jane Krakowski (born 1968) TV, theater & film actress (Ally McBeal, 30 Rock), winner of the 2003 Tony Award
    John Krasinski (born 1979) TV and film actor (The Office)[15] (of half Polish and half Irish descent)
    Lisa Kudrow (born 1963) actress, her Jewish ancestors lived in Poland, she still has family there
    Shia LaBeouf (born 1986) American actor, voice actor, and comedian, mother is of Polish Jewish decent.
    Carole Landis (1919–1948) Film actress, mother was of Polish descent [16]
    Joe Lando (born 1961) TV and film actor (Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman)[17]
    Téa Leoni (born 1966) Film and TV actress, her paternal grandmother is of Polish descent[18]
    Justin Long (born 1978) Film and television actor, his mother, former Broadway actress Wendy Lesniak, is of Polish descent.
    Eric Mabius (born 1971) TV and film actor (Ugly Betty, The Crow)[19]
    Rose Marie (born 1923) TV and film actress, (The Dick Van Dyke Show) mother is of Polish heritage [20]
    Ross Martin (1920–1981) Polish-born TV and film actor (Wild Wild West)[21]
    Debra Messing (born 1968) American actress
    Izabella Miko (born 1981) Coyote Ugly
    Patrycja Mikula (born 1983) also known as Patricia Mikula is a model and Playboy Cybergirl
    Helena Modjeska (1840–1909) Polish-born actress who specialized in Shakespearean roles[22]
    Zero Mostel (1915–1977) American actor of stage and screen, best known for his portrayal of comic characters such as Tevye in Fiddler on the Roof, Pseudolus in A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum, and Max Bialystock in The Producers
    Pola Negri (1894–1987) Polish film actress who achieved notoriety as a femme fatale in silent films between 1910s and 1930s[23]
    Paul Newman (1925–2008) actor, his father was the son of Jewish immigrants from Poland and Hungary
    Jerry O’Connell (born 1974) TV and film actor, mother is Polish-American [24][25]
    Jerry Orbach (1935–2004) Tony Award winner, theater, TV and film actor, mother was Polish-American (TV series Law & Order, film Dirty Dancing)[26]
    Frank Oz (born 1944) British-born American film director, actor and puppeteer
    Joanna Pacuła (born 1957) Polish-born actress[27]
    Jared Padalecki (born 1982) TV actor – (Gilmore Girls, Supernatural)[28] (of half Polish descent)
    Adrianne Palicki (born 1983) TV actress (is of part Polish descent)
    Gwyneth Paltrow (born 1972) actress, her paternal great-grandfather was a Jew from Poland
    James Penzi (born 1952) playwright, screenwriter, poet; mother is Polish
    Natalie Portman (born 1981) actress
    Stefanie Powers (born 1942) Stage, TV, film actress and singer[29][30]
    Beata Pozniak (born 1960) Polish-born actress, film director, painter, fashion model and activist who is now based out of the United States (Babylon 5, JFK)[23]
    Robert Prosky (born 1930) Character and TV actor (Hill Street Blues)[31]
    Maggie Q, actor and model
    John Ratzenberger (born 1947) TV actor (Cheers)[32]
    Lisa Ray (born 1972) Canadian actress and former Model; mother was Polish
    Eli Roth (born 1972) American film director, producer, writer and actor
    John Rubinstein (born 1945) TV and film actor [33]
    Fred Savage (born 1976) American actor and television and film director, and producer
    Liev Schreiber (born 1967) film and stage actor
    Chloë Sevigny (born 1974) Film actress and model [34] her mother is of Polish descent
    William Shatner (born 1931) Canadian double Emmy-, Golden Globe- and Saturn Award-winning actor and novelist
    Harry Shearer (born 1943) American actor, comedian, writer, musician and radio host
    Casey Siemaszko (born 1961) Film/television actor[35][36]
    Nina Siemaszko (born 1970) Film/television actress[37]
    Sarah Silverman (born 1970) American comedian, writer, singer, guitarist and actress
    Leelee Sobieski (born 1982) American actress
    Olga Sosnovska (born 1972) Polish-born TV and soap opera actress (All My Children)[38]
    Lee Strasberg (1901–1982) American actor, director, and one of the best-known acting teachers in American theater and film
    Gloria Swanson (1899–1983) Film actress (Sunset Boulevard)[39]
    Loretta Swit (born 1937) Stage and television actress, (M*A*S*H)[40]
    Keith Szarabajka (born 1952) TV and film actor
    Eric Szmanda (born 1975) TV actor (CSI)[41]
    Alan Tudyk (born 1971)[42]
    Liv Tyler (born 1977), actress and model, great-grandfather emigrated from Poland
    Tom Tyler (1903–1954) Film actor (Adventures of Captain Marvel)[43]
    James Urbaniak (born 1963) Film, television and theatre actor
    Michael Vartan (born 1968) Film and television actor, mother is Jewish immigrant from Poland[44]
    Jean Wallace (1923–1990) Film actress
    Eli Wallach (born 1915) American actor born to Polish Jewish parents in Brooklyn.
    Paul Wesley (born 1982) American actor. His real name is Paul Wasilewski. Best known for his roles as The Redeemer, Aaron Corbett in the ABC Miniseries Fallen and Stefan Salvatore in The Vampire Diaries.
    Pia Zadora (born 1954) actress and singer, Polish-American mother [45]
    Daphne Zuniga (born 1962) American actress

    Comment by High Road — July 12, 2012 @ 9:47 am

  114. THanks High Road. That is one hot list of Poles. Or Polacks. Whichever. They are are still hawt and successful.

    Now get over it already. You are now the dullest poster on the internet with all these psuedonyms.

    Comment by PunkA — July 12, 2012 @ 10:06 am

  115. Ashley needs to get over it and take down the racism.

    Comment by PunkA — July 12, 2012 @ 10:24 am

  116. I enjoy reading your blogs. They are always funny. Sean was great. I hope he finds love too. I hope and think that Emily will pick Arie.

    Comment by Katie — July 12, 2012 @ 10:55 am

  117. Great job Ash,
    Totally enjoyed the blog as usual. The thing that irked me most about Sean was his continuous reference that “he does not ‘give himself’ to girls easily”. Still not even sure what that means,but in 8 weeks he was ready…oooook

    Is it just me or did Jef questions sound like questions he was asked by his parents, that he had to get answers for? There was just a different and somewhat uncomfortable vibe to their date. Not sure if Emily is even aware of how much involvement Jef’s family plays in his life and decisions, but if its him at the end, he seems like a good guy and I wish her all the best.

    I wonder if Sweet Arie makes the show as much fun for the editors as he does for most of the viewers. Must say I was shocked that at this point in the show Emily didn’t know much about him and he looked like he was caught off guard with those questions….hmmm all along I thought they were editing their convos, now not so sure. That said, their chemistry is “off the chain” and yes I agree she is finding every reason not to choose him.
    Which “player” tattoos their girlfriend’s name on their body…really?! that screams I’m only playing with 1 person :) and then chooses to move in with a single Mom with not one but 2 kids. The math doesn’t add up and there may be a lot more to Arie than we realize. He’s just quirky, sexy and doesn’t take himself too seriously.

    Hard choice for Emily but a great season for us, can’t wait for the finale and yeah I’m TeamArie for the final rose :)

    Comment by Dee — July 12, 2012 @ 12:38 pm

  118. Ooops..forgot to add.

    Ashley why do you think Emily cried so much in this episode whenever she spoke about Arie. It was just so odd to me ? What’s going on there?

    Still on the fence about him not getting the fantasy card invite. Is she implying that if she had explained to him what she wanted to happen, he would not have honored her request. I know she said she didn’t trust herself, but does that also mean she doesn’t trust him either?

    He’s watched the show before so I’m sure he knew that he didn’t get it, even though he didn’t seem perterbed by it. I just felt like she didn’t give him a chance to show whether he would have been a gentleman or not and that upset me.
    That’s it until next week

    Comment by Dee — July 12, 2012 @ 12:48 pm

  119. This blog was pretty funny. You are doing a great job getting those done faster. On the racism stuff, IMO your inaction is sending the wrong message. It seems like these people do have a valid point if you do not take down the offensive language towards the Polish. Just my two cents. Cheers!

    Comment by Maura — July 12, 2012 @ 1:07 pm

  120. This blog is fantastic, I must admit Arie may come on strong but his type can be tamed. I don’t know how she could not pick him, he’s the total package, Jeff is trying so hard to say all the right things and that is a warning sign, he seems well rehearsed as if he did his homework on her. his type is controlling… and I dont’ think for a minute Arie doesn’t worry him. Arie won her heart, he’s the kind you can never forget. Lord…. the way he looks at here could start a blazing fire.

    Comment by Piper — July 12, 2012 @ 1:47 pm

  121. Jef seems like an intelligent, fun guy with a super nice family…maybe the best for her…but where is the compassion. I think Arie has her heart. He is also a great guy and seems to really be in love with her. I keep hearing that Jef is the F1 but how could she really be in love with him (enough to become engaged) and have the feelings for Arie that she apparently does. From the beginning she has turned to him (Arie) for comforting and support. He has been there for her..can she really let him go? I hope not!

    Comment by JoJo — July 12, 2012 @ 2:04 pm

  122. Was going to comment but forget it … can’t believe the racist stuff…take it down already. People are really hurt by you Ashley.

    Comment by Jazzizbest — July 12, 2012 @ 2:36 pm

  123. @ Jazzizbest – I’m not Polish and not the most politically correct person around, but when I read Ashley’s hometown date blog the other day my jaw dropped at the word “pollack.” Isn’t p*llack on the same level with ch*nk, sp*c, g**k, the N-word, etc? And then the “ick” and not having time to find any “polish jokes…” didn’t help any.

    I don’t think Ashley is racist, but maybe young and misguided. Maybe she doesn’t consider the remarks offensive because she’s jabbing fun at white people? Or she just heard one too many Polish jokes so it sounds all right? Whatever people want to call it – racism, bigotry, etc – it was extremely culturally insensitive. And the way Ashley’s brushing off “trolls who want to start fights” isn’t going to stop them from posting, because I think their complaints are legitimate. They’re pissed off because Ashley is dismissing them so lightly.

    I’m an Ashley Spivey fan and I think she writes some of the funniest blogs. Her blog is actually the only one I read here. But I think she needs to do what’s right and acknowledge and apologize that’s she’s offended and hurt people, and edit her last blog.

    Comment by Cassandra — July 12, 2012 @ 5:29 pm

  124. p.s. Okay, I just read at the end of this blog that Ashley has apologized, but I don’t think that defending it as “light-hearted” and suggesting that there are other blogs to read is going to cut it. If she’s truly sorry that she’s offended and hurt people, she needs to remove those remarks from the blog.

    Comment by Cassandra — July 12, 2012 @ 5:42 pm

  125. @Cassandra–couldn’t agree with you more. I was shocked too. Evidently she refuses to take the remarks off. Can’t understand why she’d knowingly promote racism.

    Comment by Jazzizbest — July 12, 2012 @ 8:05 pm

  126. ROTFLMAO on the Chris Harrison photo of “Wanna head to my Fantasy Suite?” Terribly naughty of you. Hehehehe.

    Comment by Maria C — July 13, 2012 @ 6:27 am

  127. I think Emily and One F Jef should live in LA and Emily become a model/movie actress. I’d love to see them make a reality show.

    Comment by Wendy — July 13, 2012 @ 7:01 am

  128. Sean-I would have picked him as my final. Super hot!!!

    Jef- super genuine, super cool, but the Mormon faith has messed up beliefs. Probably why people that don’t practice Mormon state they are “non-practicing.” Glad to see Jef trying to get away from it, but that fact that he goes to a Mormon church would be enough for me to run. Jef seems fun, rich, and doesn’t have to be away traveling for work, but i don’t see this relationship lasting.

    Arie- He would be a good pick too. He seems super cool and fun and life with him would be adventurous too. I think he’d make a great dad too.

    Comment by Tiffany — July 13, 2012 @ 7:34 am

  129. I think Emily made a mistake sending Sean home.

    Comment by Liz — July 13, 2012 @ 8:58 am

  130. Take responsibility for your offensive comments and remove them. WTF is wrong with you?

    Comment by Emily's neighbor — July 13, 2012 @ 9:10 am

  131. Hey Warner Bros. Isn’t the Bachelor franchise facing a class action law suit for purposeful discrimination against people of color? You may really want to take down the offending blog or at least that part. Many people find it culturally insensitive to say the least. That certainly doesn’t help convince your accusers or viewers that you are open minded, respectful, and accepting of all races, ethnic groups, etc.

    Comment by B.R. — July 13, 2012 @ 9:51 am

  132. Ashley HAS recently taken down the picture/comment that caused such a stir from Episode 8. Kudos to Ashley for the apology and for removing the comment. So now can we please move on?

    Ashley your blog is the funniest I have ever read!! Keep up the GREAT WORK!!

    Comment by KeriL — July 13, 2012 @ 11:28 am

  133. For all of you that are upset with Ashley for not removing her posts please keep in mind she can’t do that herself, she submits the content and ABC is the one that actually posts and has the power to edit it. I agree that the comments were thoughtless and hurtful and should be removed but direct that portion of your anger at the right party and write to ABC to get them removed, don’t bash Ashley for it.

    Comment by Dee — July 13, 2012 @ 11:43 am

  134. @KeriL I was about to say the same thing. If these people would go back and look they would see that it has all been taken down sot hey can stop their whining and move on.

    Ashley I don’t usually comment but I just want to say that I love your blog and look forward to it every week. All of your pictures and captions are hilarious and people need to stop taking them so seriously.

    P.S. Thanks for the screenshot of Sean with his shirt off! I seriously paused my TV on that shot for a few min. before watching the rest of the episode lol!! ;-)

    Comment by Krstn — July 13, 2012 @ 11:53 am

  135. KeriL and/or Ashley,

    Good that you removed the comments. Load of bunk about the alleged apology, but no worries … don’t want the fake apology anyway.

    Comment by High Road — July 13, 2012 @ 2:49 pm

  136. @High Road- Better late than never. I wonder if there will be an apology for calling us Trolls just a day ago? Eh, never mind.

    Comment by Ashley2forreal — July 13, 2012 @ 3:03 pm

  137. Please don’t assume that I did not check before making my comment. I did immediately before I typed it, and the blog/post/offending section was still there.

    Comment by B.R. — July 13, 2012 @ 5:15 pm

  138. still there at that time

    Comment by B.R. — July 13, 2012 @ 5:16 pm

  139. @ BR You wrote a great post and nobody’s thinking that.

    Comment by American — July 13, 2012 @ 5:50 pm

  140. Good lord. Jef and his family must be horrified. The way she looks like she wants to get it on with Arie is obvious. He stated this week that they had lots if good conversation that was cut out. But those kiss scenes were so sexy, I can see why they put them in.

    Every tuesday all the women at work were dying!!! He’s so sexy.

    Which is why jef looks so weak. When he’s talking my bull shit meter goes off. The flowery praise and poems are a red flag. He seems like he’s acting from what he’s seen in a film. Where Arie seems totally open.

    Assuming the spoilers are correct, jef must be humiliated in front if friends and family. I would be devastated if it were me.

    Comment by Lyn — July 13, 2012 @ 10:13 pm

  141. Emily has great insight into the type of husband she wants…possibly the only person on any of the Bach/ette shows ever . Other than Sean, who for some reason wasn’t the ‘right’ person for her, Jef obviously has all the qualities she’s looking for. With only 2-3 mos to ‘choose’ a husband, hopefully she gets it right for the sake of her dtr. I think she realizes men like Arie are a dime a dozen. He needs to be tamed down, doesn’t have the lifestyle Emily wants. I feel bad she has to deal with this horndog on national TV.

    Comment by .cam — July 14, 2012 @ 10:02 am

  142. Thanks, American.
    I was (over)reacting to the posts by KeriL and Krstn.
    Looking forward to the final episodes!

    Comment by B.R. — July 14, 2012 @ 12:03 pm

  143. @High Road – not sure if I understand your comment correctly, but I did not remove Ashley’s comments. I just mentioned that those comments that offended many were taken down.

    Comment by KeriL — July 14, 2012 @ 12:14 pm

  144. Well, all i have to say is, Goodluck to whomever Emily chooses if not Arie lol, their chemistry is not just physical but emotional as well, the way he looks at her says alot!

    Comment by Ann — July 15, 2012 @ 2:52 pm

  145. Emily does not look for a husband. She does not know what she wants or what she wants is not on the show. She is playing the role of the Bachelorette for America and making decisions that America want her to, so that America take side with her. The elimination of Sean was the first time she got a backlash and she’ already upset based on her tweets. she needs to not let things like that bother her. She should consult with Ashley and JP on how to take the media in stride. Sadly, i doubt Emily has the intellectual depth or has enough confidence in herself to deal with the tabloids and she will let them get to her. It ‘s very tough for her and her chosen one because I’ve never seen a Bachelorette with so many negative rumors swirling around.

    Comment by confused — July 15, 2012 @ 10:14 pm

  146. Serious question…and I really am curious to hear the answer: if Jef wasn’t rich think Emily would even be CONSIDERING him? I’m genuinely interested to know what you think! My first impression of him was short and funny looking. And Emily practically threw herself on him and said “hello I’m interested in you,” the way the cheerleading capt would pursue the head of the math club. Thoughts?

    Comment by HH — July 15, 2012 @ 10:32 pm

  147. @HH i don’t think there’s amything wrong with wanting a man that can give you a lifestyle that you want. Men want the woman with the best body.

    Comment by Monica — July 16, 2012 @ 8:44 am

  148. She seems to have more than enough money to support herself and her daughter seeing that she has a familial connection to a wealthy family. There is nothing wrong with wanting someone who can support the family without exploiting the resources that she has coming in from her daughter’s grandparents.
    Would she have given him a chance had he not been so rich? Despite the many reports that Emily is a gold digger and is after fame, I seem to not believe it completely. She seems like a honest respectable woman who only wants what’s best for her little daughter. She does not strike me as someone that shallow…. Now I also don’t think there would be anything wrong if she had aspirations to be famous or to be a celebrity, not that she isn’t already given the amount of support that she is getting. If there is something wrong in her desire to work as an actress or a model or anything of that sort then there is something wrong with all the other celebrities too… other celebrities also have kids and seem to want just that; to work as an actress, model, etc.
    To finish off my point, I believe she fell in love with Jef’s personality, his maddening good looks, his love for her, his passion for life and life with her and her daughter, as well as his family and not the money… So many characteristics to fall in love with that have nothing to do with his financial position… Anything other than that is just a bonus.

    Comment by Armina — July 16, 2012 @ 10:43 am

  149. Remember during Brad’s season the after the final rose was going to be their wedding until things started going south?? I can’t get it out of my head that there will be something along those lines this Sunday!

    Comment by Sarah — July 16, 2012 @ 7:05 pm

  150. Sarah- good point, maybe Sunday will be a wedding? And Armina- also valid points. But to each his (her) own. Jef is definitely growing on me because he seems sweet and normal but to say he has “maddening” good looks? I’m seriously not trying to be a bitch but am I the only person who thinks Jef is a little funny looking? Anyone? I just don’t see it…

    Comment by HH — July 17, 2012 @ 8:42 pm

  151. Hilarious! Great blog.

    Comment by Liz — July 17, 2012 @ 8:57 pm

  152. hehehe I personally think that he is crazy good looking… His eyes are captivating, his style is impeccable, and his personality just tops it all off… I look at the eyes rather than anything else on the body because they tell the story, and some story he is telling!!! so yes from my point of view MADDENING GOOD LOOKS LOL

    Comment by Armina — July 18, 2012 @ 5:01 pm

  153. Emily may be a lady. And beautiful. I know people aren’t going to like this, but she is really a tease,
    a fake. She has told several of these guys the same very serious thing – e.g. “I knew it was you and I from the first day,” “I just thought I knew all along that it was you and I…” She went for the money, period. Jef may be sweet, but he is so serious and needs more reality – like Arie or Sean. Arie’s family wasn’t right for Emily, too European and hip, not conservative enough. Sean and his family were too down to earth. I wish them well. Take away the money, and the love would disappear for these two.

    Comment by rita — July 22, 2012 @ 7:08 pm

  154. SORRY. Wish I could take previous comment back – (part about money and fake). The good, positive things I said about Emily, I would leave as is. I was out of line, and apologize. I had a personal thing going on, plus I could relate to Arie and Sean better. Hopefully, not too many will see these comments since this is an older post. Stuck foot in mouth.

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