Favorite Worst Nightmare

Let’s face it, after viewing this weeks episode there really isn’t much else worth talking about outside of Ben and Courtney’s synchronized swimming duet. I’m still going to put some effort (minimal at best) into the rest of the episode. So be patient and like Courtney’s slogan on her new T-shirt line Irony Clothing says, “Be Nice.”

“Let’s Find Love in Old San Juan”- Congratulations Nicki, first date out the gate in Puerto Rico and, surprise, it rains. Thankfully Ben has a solid plan B in place for situations like this: commence operation dress like a Latin drug lord. Let the record state that this is the ONLY appropriate time a man should ever wear white loafers. With that Ben and Nicki find themselves window-shopping a wedding together. In their attempt at tackling the tough question of when to move in, Ben and Nicki are drawn into a theoretical debate on why one would buy the cow when you can get the milk free? Of course Nicki, having already been married once refers to her experience and feels moving in prior to being married is an important step in getting to know someone. There’s all the proof I need, these two are playing it safe and I don’t see Ben on bended knee asking Nicki to marry him anytime soon. Regardless, date one in Puerto Rico ends in a rose and Nicki is safe to continue her journey next week.

“Diamonds Are A Girl’s Best Friend”- Here’s an idea, let’s take the girls and split them into two competitive teams. We’ll give them one bat and reward last team standing with a beach party hosted by our Bachelor! These girls couldn’t work together long enough to finish a puzzle without someone getting shanked in the back, so let’s play ball!

Red versus Blue, might as well be North versus South as this is just good old fashioned hate on display. After teams were chosen and a switch hitter was designated (no, Monica went home last week), the game begins. From what we saw, more than a few of the girls thrived on the physical aspect of this date. Blakeley was on an absolute tear, smashing singles and catching balls like it was her job? I just have a feeling we’re going to see an asterisk by her name in the records books for performance enhancing. In typical Hollywood fashion the fate of the Blue team lies in the hands of an underdog accountant from Oklahoma City, OK named Jennifer, better known as “The Economist” by her teammates. Unfortunately for the Blue team the numbers just didn’t add up this time. Jennifer strikes out and they are forced to sit and watch as the spoils of victory are awarded to the “winning” Red team.

The bonfire beach party thrown for the Red team wasn’t really all that exciting. Most of the conversations revolved around how Courtney sized up her teammates chances with Ben, of course they all fell short of her worldly resume. Ben does decide to give Kacie a rose, which seems to set off a series of unfortunate events as we are treated to Courtney’s premeditated plan of Bachelor 16 domination. Like last week, Courtney isolates Ben and starts to plant seeds of devilish intention with thoughts of wine and skinny dipping. This leaves our Bachelor confused, as he isn’t fully aware of Courtney’s ability to do whatever the hell she wants.

“Let’s Find Love Somewhere Private”- We all know how this date ends so let me just say, Elyse, this just wasn’t the right guy at the right time for you. I applaud you though for handling yourself with dignity while on the show and wish you the best in your journey to find love. I’m starting to wonder though if this season is only scheduled for 6 weeks? Ben’s making cuts like a butcher or as Courtney say’s “trimming the fat.”

“I don’t know if he’s ever skinny dipped with a model?”- I’m not too sure about that either Courtney, we’ll have to check his bucket list to confirm. Here we arrive at what seems to be the antithesis of Courtney’s journey with Ben, and after only five weeks? Well, when two people are in love who is ABC to stop them? I’m guessing Courtney sneaks off to surprise Ben and positions herself in front of Ben’s room and awaits for our Bachelor to return from a somber evening of crushed dreams, discarded roses and uneaten dinners. Upon Ben’s arrival it’s worthy to note the look of sheer terror on his face as he turns to see the devilish vixen in white toting two glasses and a bottle of vino.

Inside the room they sit and chat, again note the fear in our Bachelor’s body language. It’s as if he’s snuck into the room of his first girlfriend, waiting with trained ear for the doorknob to turn so he can escape out a window. There’s even a point where our Bachelor admits that, “this probably isn’t a good idea”, but nothing fun ever really is so onto the beach they go. Here it’s evident our Bachelor has full convinced himself that this is a good idea stating, “why not, why the hell not?” After all you are still relatively single and by the time everyone finds out you’ll be engaged to some lucky lady and the statue of limitations will already be up. Can you say loophole? Boom.

The remainder of the episode pales in comparison to Ben and Courtney’s impromptu date. Sadly we are forced to watch as Jennifer clings to straws describing her last date with Ben stating, “I really loved it. I just felt like it was so perfect” for which Ben answers, “It was something.” Ouch, seems like Ben has begun construction on his walls again. There’s a lesson to be learned here and like my man Tupac said, “Ladies you can run the red lights but please read the street signs.” Amen.

The only other two conversations worth noting with Ben were Blakeley and Emily’s. Blakeley attempts to show a softer side as she admits to the “note taking” of Ben’s finer characteristics. It seems to work with Ben as he commends her for taking the chance and opening up to him. It’s evident that Blakeley’s feelings have progressed greatly for Ben over the past two episodes. Clearly we just haven’t been privy to all of their conversations.

While Blakeley is taking notes Emily seems hard pressed to read them as she again tries to warn Ben about his decision making, specifically with Courtney. She is told by Ben to simply, “drop it” and to “tread carefully.” Poor Emily, at this point she has no clue just how far Courtney’s claws have set into Ben. I only hope Emily heeds our Bachelors advice as she’s on deck for the chopping block, luckily Jennifer was batting clean up this time around.

It’s clear who commands most of our Bachelors attention up to this point. Surely though this can’t be a one horse race so soon?

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  1. One horse race, eh? Horse is right. She’s a hand model, right?

    I felt awful for Elyse that Ben even continued the date past them boarding the boat. You could tell his heart wasn’t in it from the moment the date started.

    Once again, the Bachelor sends the smart, fun & dynamic ladies home opting to keep people of little to no substance. Come on Ben, step up. Once Courtney’s ‘good looks’ are gone, you’ll just be left with a vindictive, manipulative & shallow person who thinks she’s all that… which is how the world ends up with people like Janice Dickinson.

    Comment by Nicole — February 2, 2012 @ 1:56 pm

  2. Your buddy is a dbag!!

    Comment by Staci — February 2, 2012 @ 2:13 pm

  3. I see him being the most compatible with Shawntel N., too bad he sent her home. Men can be dumb.

    Comment by April — February 2, 2012 @ 2:35 pm

  4. I hope that your last comment about a “one horse race”, means that he came to his senses and picked Lindzi. Please let this be.
    Although how she could ever get beyond the skinny dipping episode is beyond me.

    Comment by Jacquie — February 2, 2012 @ 2:44 pm

  5. You and some of the other guys on your season were very upset about traveling all over the globe and wasting your time in Hong Kong when Ashley told of Bentley. YET … you do not mention Ben’s total disregard for the other ladies who are now traveling the globe. He may be well matched with C; but some restraint and common courtesy would have been nice. I know he’s your bud – but come on. I wish you had mentioned some concern for the other ladies, especially since you experienced a somewhat similar situation. Oh well, “bros before hos”.

    Comment by LL — February 2, 2012 @ 2:53 pm

  6. Ben=douche for so many reasons: (1) his inability to even try to keep a polite conversation going, makes the girls do all the work, (2) his rude treatment of Emily, (3) his way too early focus on Courtney, passing up the chance of a lifetime to really get to know a bunch of great women, (4) his disrespect for the other women, i.e. getting naked with Courtney, (5) his overall demeanor indicating that he just doesn’t give a shit about this opportunity. Douche.

    Comment by MTN — February 2, 2012 @ 3:23 pm

  7. I’m not even a big Ben fan, I can’t believe the stupid producers can’t make a better show with a bachelor like Ben. His personna is fun and action and they have him doing drama and talk. Totally stupid. They’re so stuck on their idiot format for the 23rd season. I also can’t believe they saddled him with that phony/baloney proposal to Ashley. All you guys knew it was J.P. maybe as early as Phuket. It might have taken Ryan P. until Taiwan when she sent Lucas home.

    Comment by Jim — February 2, 2012 @ 3:39 pm

  8. And another thing. The problem with the Courtney storyline is her cattiness to the other girls. Ridiculous!! As far as her aggressiveness toward Ben, I say more, much more of it. Forget this final two BS. If a girl wants to go balls out for the Bachelor, I say yes. What’s making this a lousy season is the idiot producers sticking to their BS format and not letting Ben do what he does best.

    Comment by Jim — February 2, 2012 @ 3:44 pm

  9. Wow. This blog is very well-written.

    Who wrote it? You did not seem this articulate during your time on the Bachelorette.

    Comment by lauriel — February 2, 2012 @ 3:47 pm

  10. This is the best season ever! Does anyone know what Ben’s line of wine is called?

    Comment by Sunbeam — February 2, 2012 @ 5:19 pm

  11. I agree, I have Ben fever too, I want to try Ben’s wine too.

    Comment by Kelly — February 2, 2012 @ 5:23 pm

  12. Lollll man I look forward to reading your blogs. I love it! Why didnt you show your humor on bachelorette? Perhaps you did but we didn’t see.

    Wish you could go more into your thoughts abt Courtney but seeing how ben is your buddy, you would probably not want to diss the inevitable fiancé of his.

    Anyway I genuinely think you should really look into writing stuff more..make a career out of it!!

    Comment by Anon — February 2, 2012 @ 7:16 pm

  13. I was going to resist posting a comment, but given all of the kudos for “good writing” here, I just have to say something.

    “Here we arrive at what seems to be the antithesis of Courtney’s journey with Ben, and after only five weeks?”

    Huh?? Antithesis means opposite, and I just can’t make sense of this sentence. Did you mean apex? Or culmination? If you are going to use big words, it’s a good idea to be sure of their meaning.

    Also, it’s STATUTE of limitations, not statue! I’d love to see what a “statue of limitations” would look like. :) Further, there is no statute of limitations for re-thinking your engagement when you find out your fiance went skinny dipping and who knows what else with another girl while he was supposedly falling for you. Can you say screwed? Boom!

    Comment by leaf — February 2, 2012 @ 8:15 pm

  14. Wow, this is the funniest I have ever seen you be. I LOL several times. I get that you have to “tread carefully” w/ Ben, but real friends tell each other when they have spinach in their teeth and when they are being a DB.

    What Ben did was so unbelievably foolish, sleazy, and disrespectful to the other women. Remember how mad you got at Ashley for even feeling strong feelings for the Evil One 1.0 (we all know who 2.0 is – more evil and cunning than the first), and not giving you guys a fair chance? Imagine if you were in those poor women’s shoes who are still left. How would you feel being so disregarded and treated w/ no respect like that? He’s not even giving anyone else a chance. I’m fine w/ that, but he should have ended the season there and sent those women home instead of lying to their faces and saying he wanted them to be honest w/ him. If you thought the “Be Nice” T-shirt was ironic… It’s truly his loss. He’s a frat boy still and has much growing up to do. How would he feel if someone did what he did to his sister? SMH & utterly disgusted w/ Ben.

    Comment by Were You Always This Funny? — February 2, 2012 @ 9:09 pm

  15. Leaf – funny & agree totally.

    Comment by Were You Always This Funny? — February 2, 2012 @ 9:14 pm

  16. Just wanted to take a second and thank everyone for reading my blog. It’s really rewarding to know that I’v made some of you laugh as that was my only real goal in deciding to blog. I do want to address the questions about why I’m not ‘having a go’ a Courtney or any of the other girls for that matter. The truth is I don’t think it’s fair for me to.

    For starters I’ve never met these women. I met people everyday who feel they really ‘know me’ from watching the show, luckily for me I didn’t walk around quoting Charlie Sheen on the show. For the most part what you see is what you get with me but in now way does that mean you’ve gained a total understanding of who I am. I’ll poke fun at the girls and try to make light of some of the decisions I see Ben making but who am I to criticize? Ironic, we all hate critics in our lives yet we all seem to play the role so well.

    As for the spelling and grammar ninjas out there, I NEVER claimed to be a brilliant writer and would be the first to admit going into this I’d butcher the english language. I’d be more than happy to send you a draft to proof read for me. I’ll even give you credit so you can have some of this fleeting limelight.

    Ultimately, my friendship with Ben will run past the airing of this show. I can guarantee no matter what the outcome is you won’t find me publicly slandering him. Like a true friend, I’ll pull him to the side in private and tell him he’s ‘got spinach in his teeth.’

    All the best,

    Comment by Constantine — February 3, 2012 @ 5:27 am

  17. I’m following this Bachelor edition and this blog because I know Dino and his family very well and respect them all. The one thing folks saw last year on TV and it is true in real life is how genuine a person Dino is. I still applaud him for leaving the show last year when he knew there was no connection with Ashley. Dino is as genuine as they come, has a biting sense of humor, and would never throw a friend under the bus. I’m sure he and Ben have talked about what’s happening on TV vs. reality of the situation. Dino will be a true friend to Ben and has his back- that I can promise.
    It amazes me how people make judgements on folks solely based on what film does or doesn’t end up on the cutting room floor. We all see this “courtship” with Courtney play out on the tube and wonder what the hell Ben is thinking. Dino can attest that what happens on location vs. what is shown are sometimes 2 very different things. These editors are very good at what they do to garner ratings. That said- and based on what I’ve seen so far- I can’t see the “relationship” with Courtney amounting to anything more than water sports and her “winning the prize”. But who really knows? Ultimately it’s up to BEN to figure it out. Great job on the blog Dino and take care of your apprentice at Giorgio’s!

    Comment by EgginDawg — February 3, 2012 @ 7:46 am

  18. Love your blogs, Constantine!

    Comment by Tracey — February 3, 2012 @ 8:34 am

  19. To EgginDawg – you can edit what someone says OFF camera – this was all done on camera and you see the words coming out of Courtney’s & Ben’s mouths. So are you saying they put Ben and Courtney’s heads on some other people’s naked bodies? So Ben didn’t say to the women to be honest w/ him while he was lying them? Yes – keeping a crucial piece of information that would have changed the course of the relationships w/ him & the entire season is lying – omission is a default lie. That was his head speaking and the words came out of that. Maybe you are a “dawg” and this is all OK w/ you, but I promise you, people w/ integrity or any ounce of compassion for the other women, it’s not OK w/ them. I’m not saying that what they did is comparable to these people, but giving an example of having someone’s back doesn’t mean what the other person did was right or covering for that person make what you are doing right – I’m sure Bonnie & Clyde had people who had their backs, still what they did was not right. Lots of people have varying degrees of integrity and standards of what’s right and wrong. Clearly this was seen as wrong by the majority (thank goodness) as wrong.

    Comment by No Dawg, that's just being a dog — February 3, 2012 @ 9:53 am

  20. To Constantine,

    1. I agree that being judgmental is not a good thing, but modern day America has gone too far in the wrong direction w/ that concept. It means don’t judge people based on their looks, economic status, disabilities, or anything they can’t help. It does NOT mean, don’t speak up when you see someone doing something harmful to someone else, society, or yourself. Morality is meant to keep people like the Courtneys of the world from running amok. We can and should judge people for their actions if it goes against our very code of conscience. Skinny dipping is not wrong, it’s the context in which he did it was wrong. What Ben did was hurtful and unfair to the other women, and you know that he would have been hurt (as you would have felt, too) had he been on the receiving end of that treatment if he cared for someone like these women cared for him.

    2. Again, I think modern American society has gone in the wrong direction w/ this. Criticisms are not all bad – if someone says something mean about you that you can’t do or change, then that is just bashing, and those you have to ignore. However, if they are saying something that will help you become a better person, a better writer, a better whatever. Then it’s call constructive criticism. Watching this show is not the smartest thing for me to do on sooooooo many level, but I am fascinated by the social interactions and it’s a show mainly about how NOT to behave and who NOT to associate with. However, I know it’s literally killing my brain cells more than the even the average TV watching to watch this show and then to read some of the writing, it’s just plain outright mass murder. Newspapers and magazines are written at a 4th grade level – is it too much to expect people to know basic grammar, spelling and punctuation? Commenters can make mistakes it’s on the spot, but when you are the main writer, have respect for the format and at least please show respect and kindness to the readers by at least making it 4th grade standard (you are by far not the worse bachelor writer and I say this about all the bloggers on this website). Go to Grammar Girl’s website for very easy and quick help. This is a huge reason why our country is near 3rd world country level in terms of education (hence in terms of economic status and standard of living if we don’t quit this) – God forbid should we expect someone to try harder or be their best in terms of morals and standard of their work. OMG – what will that do? Isn’t it terrible of those people to you want you to do better? It might lead you (universal you) to become a better person – yipes and we don’t want that since low class and mediocre means never having to do anything that feels uncomfortable or ever taking anyone’s feedback.

    Comment by Constructive Criticism is Good — February 3, 2012 @ 10:22 am

  21. So, you can not be so proud of your buddy on this. Dino, come on!

    You are a gamer. (So was Ashley, that was why you finished at where you finished last season. But she ‘s also good sports and that girl has no ego. She let you have the last word and had no problems with it. And danm, you looked really good..) But you do have a BIG EGO because deep down you know she played better.

    But hey, let’s talk about your dear friend. DONT CALL HIM A GAMER! the boy has ZERO GAME!! and an inflated ego. And got played by that Courtney.

    On a scale from 1 to 10, Ben brought the show to a new trashy level.

    Comment by you're so vain — February 3, 2012 @ 10:23 am

  22. ^^^ Yes, I made tons of mistakes that I would love to correct b/c I was in a hurry and forgot to edit before hitting enter. However, if someone pointed them out to me, I would agree w/ them and thank them b/c I see the same things, and care about sounding educated and intelligent. If someone doesn’t care about that, then they don’t, but the only people they are hurting is themselves by not having high (or even reasonable) standards for themselves.

    Comment by Constructive Criticism is Good — February 3, 2012 @ 10:42 am

  23. …Dino, we ALL know it is RUDE to enter someone else’s home and be RUDE to the HOst!… i apologize for the rudeness of others!!!!……..this is supposed to be a “FUN” wrap up of the show…..NOT an ENglish Assignment!!!…how can we not see that????……..LET THE BOY BLOG…!!!…he is hysterical and oN POINT!!!……..and a buddy of the “bachelor” so, factor it in peeps!!!……YOU did NOT make a Ton of mistakes…..only a few….but who the F cares!!!???……….NOT ME!……NOT most of us!……do not let that side track you, baby!……..when you write that “Novel” you will have a team of editors, not haters……that will help with that nonsense..!…(blast me….i am out of control with the ………..’s !!!!……….OOOPs!…………BTW…..a real friend would “pull aside their buddy and tell him about the “spinach”…..!!!!!!!…….BRAVO BRAVO CT!………stay the course baby!…….for every 20 Loves, there will be a few Hates!……it’s all part of the game!….FOCUS ON THE LOVE!!!!!!! YOU ROCK! xoxooxxoo Pam!……

    Comment by Pamela B... — February 3, 2012 @ 11:05 am

  24. Enjoyed reading your blog but since you CAN’T admit to the fact that your friend is a total DOUCHE BAG then I will write it for you. I really liked him on Ashley’s season but my God…what a difference in the way he’s acting as the Bachelor! I understand if he has feelings for Courtney…I get that but to go skinny dipping with her while the other women still think they have a shot at love with him is just plain disrespectful…to say the least! Well..I know the other women will NOT find out until it airs because there’s no chance in hell they would stick around.

    Comment by Annie — February 3, 2012 @ 3:14 pm

  25. Hi there,

    I’ve never been a big blog commenter before, and I didn’t mean to sound uber-critical with my nerdy grammar notes (I am the first to admit that grammatical prowess is hardly a super-cool or even important trait). I just thought those were funny goofs and was making what I thought were light-hearted jabs. All in fun! Maybe someone needs to give me some pointers on tone. :) I didn’t realize how seriously people take all of this, and I meant no offense! Anyway, there is a lot more to good writing than perfect grammar, so blog away, Constantine, and I’ll keep my grammar ninja-ing to myself. Or, I’d be happy to help out with some proof-reading, though I’m certainly no professional.

    Comment by leaf — February 3, 2012 @ 7:21 pm

  26. Is Courtney the same person who appeared in an episode of The Housewives of O.C., (episode 44) as a buyer for Fred Segal? I Believe this girl was calling herself Neta. If not they look enough alike to be twins.

    Comment by Linda H — February 4, 2012 @ 1:03 am

  27. Ben Flajnik cream dreams

    Comment by victor — February 4, 2012 @ 2:43 am

  28. Ben is just plain disrespectful to these gals. He needs therapy!

    Comment by Carmen — February 4, 2012 @ 4:48 am

  29. …@Leaf, i must apologize if i came across as “uber defensive” on ct.’s behalf…..for some odd reason, i feel the need to defend the new writers/bloggers, as i don’t want them to ever stop their creative writing, due to an occasional grammatical mistake!…(insight on to MY own personal struggles with this exact issue!) …..i went on to re-read “your” comment, as i NOW see how you DID “wittily and kindly” try to get across a few points…i think your tone was just fine…..and really, there is no way to get better at “bloggin”, than to have someone over your shoulder kindly helping w the occasional misuse of a word or random mistakes….(i guess i miss my mum, doing this!!?!)……Not to make excuses, but i had just gotten done reading ALL the “comments” on the Bachelor Blogs, all of em: NatGetz, David Good, etc… all of em….and Constantine’s was the last one i read…..i guess i was speaking to ALL the people who, as i CANNOT understand….feel compelled to “INSULT” the host/writer ………SO much Negativity regarding dumb things….even the way they attack courtney and ben….i cannot understand how someone can follow YOU, and then INSULT you!!!!??….WTF is that??…’s like jekyl and hyde twisted love!?…….i have always been a defender of the “underdog” and it kills me how easy it is for stranges/people to pass judgement on EVERYTHING ….hiding behind a computer!!….lets see THEM take the criticism!…..!…..funny thing is: i found myself doing the same thing….!….so i apologize if my email offended you…..i only wish, more people were able to express themselves as you did….we DO need KIND grammar ninjas, as they are uber cool and uber important!!) in fact, ct may have even appreciated it!…..i was directing my “Defensiveness” to the wrong page!…shoulda been more careful!….for some reason i am getting wound up about this season….everyone is getting SO crazy about Courtney that i am actually feeling the need to defend her and ben!……(this show has always been fun- secret indulgence from real life!…i am sure i obliterated this message, so give me a “pass!?…ok!?…haha!……..bottom line, i love CT’s blogs, (he and Natalie Getz are my FAVoriTES!!)….i only hope they keep going and going!…..i hope ben finds happiness somewhere, etc…….it’s all good!…..take care….Pam….xo

    Comment by Pamela B... — February 4, 2012 @ 7:15 am

  30. Ben is a Dbag!

    Comment by victor — February 4, 2012 @ 7:17 pm

  31. leave the arctic monkeys out of this

    Comment by mm — February 4, 2012 @ 11:57 pm

  32. I enjoy reading your blog Constantine, you were also one of my favourites in the Batchelorette. I dont care about your spelling or grammar. It’s the content that matters.
    I admire your restraint with your friend and poking a little fun at the girls. These girls are mental. Courtney is verging on psychotic. Poor Ben must be watching thinking he’s made the biggest mistake of his life. He obviously cant believe his luck that such a beautiful girl is trying so hard to get him, unfortunately this girl just wants to win a show and get publicity. She’s watched Bentley bomb out and learned from his mistakes.
    She’s intelligent and cunning.
    I hope you’ll be there for your friend when he needs you after she’s used and abused him for her own gain.
    Men need to start thinking from above the waist when you’re looking long term!
    Good luck with the blog, hope it gets even funnier xx

    Comment by ShelleyD — February 5, 2012 @ 2:07 am

  33. I love reading your sarsacstic sense of humor :-) I think lindzi and kacie b would not get over the skinny dipping and that if either of those two are picked at the end….well I think he will get dumped again. There really is someone for everyone. Courtney just might be his type. That doesn’t make him a bad person. Lots of men get walked over every day by their women.

    Comment by Mellie — February 5, 2012 @ 5:04 am

  34. I sure hope you find a good person to be with eventually! You seem to be more wise and mature than most people and seem to understand what really matters at the end of the day. Like you said, if you have any criticism about Ben, you aren’t going to throw him under the bus just so a bunch of readers will be happy. You’ll pull him aside and mention whatever you want to say. I respect that. Keep maintaining your integrity because that’s a true measure of a good person.

    Comment by Anon — February 5, 2012 @ 4:41 pm

  35. I enjoy Constantine’s blog. I know that his friendship with Ben may make him less critical than other bloggers about this show, but that’s why it’s good to have a bunch of different perspectives from different former contestants, people! I don’t remember, but I believe Ashley S. was easier on Ashley H. when everyone dumped on her for the whole Bentley fiasco too.

    Comment by Phoebe — February 5, 2012 @ 6:09 pm

  36. I am a mother 53, with a daughter 21. I think in every show; what would your mother/father say about your decision? This is what I think for Ben.Would his father do the same thing e.g. C.R.? I sure wish he wouldn’t cheapen himself so. I would love to see what Courtney would do when she is told no. It makes me sad to see this pornographic behavior on public television. This girl is every woman’s nightmare. If choose she is the mother of his children and sadly enough the mother of public degradation. And Ben, father of no discipline. They are a product of the USA’s slowly declining moral society. It’s great to have such a jovial spirit but, Man up Ben… you’re acting like a 16 year old.

    Comment by Cynthia Baker — February 6, 2012 @ 3:36 pm

  37. This is a situation where 25 attractive women have to compete against each other to catch, and keep the attention of one man. They go on magical dates without having to deal with many of the real life aspects of being in a relationship. It’s easy to rush headfirst into the honeymoon phase, but also just as easy to feel insecure when you see him sharing that honeymoon with other women. But it’s really not so different from the dating scene now. People date around all the time, keeping their “options open”. The only difference (besides all the scary activities, and great places to travel to) is that you know about all the other women he’s dating. Obviously drama was going to happen.

    That being said, I find it funny that people are getting so worked up because Constantine “won’t admit” that Ben is a “douchebag” or that he doesn’t want to be “judgmental”.

    He’s simply writing his own humorous analysis of the previous night’s episode, while keeping in mind that he is not on the show, and does not actually know these women or what has been going on. Which is exactly what we, as viewers, should sometimes remember. We don’t know the people on this show. We don’t “know” Ben. What we know of Ben, and these women, is very one dimensional. We’re seeing footage which has already been edited to fit a particular storyline, which we’ve seen before on the Bachelor. We know that there will be a villain, we know that there is going to be drama on the Bachelor. We don’t get to see all the footage of what these women say, only what has been edited for national television. What Courtney said could mean something different if we were able to see it in full context. Perhaps she is misunderstood by many people.

    Just because Ben makes decisions we don’t like doesn’t make him a douchebag. It makes him human. He obviously has side to him that we don’t know about. Cream Dreams does not mean that he is a jackass. It means he has a sense of humor, one that may not necessarily fit into the Prince Charming profile of the Bachelor.

    Who are we to criticize his decisions? I understand that it’s hard to focus on personal relationships when the other person is going on dates with other people, but I think that Ben definitely gave Emily some good advice when telling her to focus on the relationship between them, and not to butt into the relationship between Ben and Courtney. I think we often forget that a relationship is between two people, and therefore, their own business. As caring family and friends, we often give advice on relationships, and forget that as well intended as we may be, we are not in that relationship, and do not know everything that has happened/is going on. We forget that as friends or family, our jobs is not to understand, make, or like decisions that loved ones make, but to simply support them. Even though this is on television, ultimately Ben’s decisions are his own, and what happens between he and Courtney is their business.

    Comment by Shlieka — February 6, 2012 @ 7:01 pm

  38. Well said Shlieka, thank you. Blog 6 should be posted before the weekend.

    Take care,

    Comment by Constantine — February 7, 2012 @ 9:24 am

  39. Most hilarious Bachelor post ever. Go you, Constantine.

    Comment by Bethany — February 7, 2012 @ 6:33 pm

  40. I think YOU win the biggest douchebag award, not Ben. The point of my response was that through editing the writers and producers can make someone the hero and someone else the villain. That is the Bachelor formula. Get a life, loser!

    Comment by To No Dawg — February 7, 2012 @ 8:21 pm

  41. Oh my gosh, why does everyone take everything so seriously?? The bachelor and bachelorette are totally my guilty pleasure and it’s for the same of entertainment – not education, not profound life lessons, just fun – smiling, laughing (or, heaven forbid crying!) with them OR at them. Sigh. Just enjoy, folks. Thanks Constantyn for your humor and inside insights. I loved the episode when Ashley met your family – it doesn’t know I mean anything about you but that you and your family seem like hardworking and fun-loving people. :)

    Comment by Danielle — February 8, 2012 @ 8:33 pm

  42. Ben Flajnik storm horse cream dreams

    Comment by charles — February 15, 2012 @ 6:19 am

  43. OMG!!!!!!!!!! Ur so right constantine! U really need to convince ur buddy, ben, to not pick stupid courtney over all these other girls! He will regret it when he sees the real her….

    Comment by Allison — February 21, 2012 @ 2:57 pm

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