Take care,

That being said, I find it funny that people are getting so worked up because Constantine “won’t admit” that Ben is a “douchebag” or that he doesn’t want to be “judgmental”.

He’s simply writing his own humorous analysis of the previous night’s episode, while keeping in mind that he is not on the show, and does not actually know these women or what has been going on. Which is exactly what we, as viewers, should sometimes remember. We don’t know the people on this show. We don’t “know” Ben. What we know of Ben, and these women, is very one dimensional. We’re seeing footage which has already been edited to fit a particular storyline, which we’ve seen before on the Bachelor. We know that there will be a villain, we know that there is going to be drama on the Bachelor. We don’t get to see all the footage of what these women say, only what has been edited for national television. What Courtney said could mean something different if we were able to see it in full context. Perhaps she is misunderstood by many people.

Just because Ben makes decisions we don’t like doesn’t make him a douchebag. It makes him human. He obviously has side to him that we don’t know about. Cream Dreams does not mean that he is a jackass. It means he has a sense of humor, one that may not necessarily fit into the Prince Charming profile of the Bachelor.

Who are we to criticize his decisions? I understand that it’s hard to focus on personal relationships when the other person is going on dates with other people, but I think that Ben definitely gave Emily some good advice when telling her to focus on the relationship between them, and not to butt into the relationship between Ben and Courtney. I think we often forget that a relationship is between two people, and therefore, their own business. As caring family and friends, we often give advice on relationships, and forget that as well intended as we may be, we are not in that relationship, and do not know everything that has happened/is going on. We forget that as friends or family, our jobs is not to understand, make, or like decisions that loved ones make, but to simply support them. Even though this is on television, ultimately Ben’s decisions are his own, and what happens between he and Courtney is their business.