David Good’s Bachelorette Blog: Episode 4

To start the show Chris comes out in his purple accented huge cuffed shirt to tell the boy’s that they are headed to BERMUDA!  I have never been but it looks beautiful.  Not on the top of my list of places to visit but looks relaxing.

Emily keeps talking about more babies in the interview and “taking her new husband and babies back to Bermuda when this is all done.”   LOL…  Maybe don’t talk too much about “more babies” with the guys just yet.  I mean it’s awesome to think about and I’m sure the right guy wants the same thing but lets focus on the fact there is already one here for the guys to man up for.

Doug gets the first one-on-one and the guys are asking him questions about the date. Doug starts getting real upset when the guys are just teasing him.  I see a real temper coming out with him and it’s not appropriate for the situation.  He seems to be a little touchy.

WOW!  A real temper comes out!  I am beginning to wonder if all those new articles are true. I have had a few people get on here and tweet me as well saying it was his ex who was the crazy one, but watching him attack the guys that are clearly joking in a non-serious convo is a little over the top.  IDK?  What are your thoughts on this?  I like Doug and want to like Doug.

When Doug is with Emily he is a totally different person, but I know a 100 different dudes like this and when you settle in for the long haul the real person comes out when difficult times arise.  This can be very dangerous for a girl… or guy.

I like Doug but he has fallen from the top of my list FOR HER AND RICKI.  I really hope he is not that same guy that the papers wrote about years back.

On the group date they are going to be sail boating and I think that would be so much fun!  I have always wanted to do that and learn how it all works.

The guys actually split into teams “yellow” and “red”. They have to compete and the loser of the boat race goes home while the winners get to go spend time with Emily.  Talk about pressure!

The boat race is so much fun to watch.  Both teams are working their butts off and look like they really learned a lot about how it all works.  Both teams did well but the yellow team wins.   Arie, Jef, Ryan and Kalon get to spend the rest of the night with Emily.  Nice work, men!

Holy Santa Clause Sh#$ Charlie is actually crying like with tears and stuff on the ride home because they lost.  WHAT?!  What is going on?  I am so confused here.  There has to be something we are missing here.  You can’t cry over that.  I’m speechless.  Ladies you might think that is all nice and showing emotion but I’m here to tell you if this is real, this is REAL weird.  You don’t cry over a boat race loss on national TV.

Every time Ryan talks he falls further back down my list for Emily.  I would love to hangout with they guy don’t get me wrong.  He is definitely a fun single guy to hangout with but I think he is just playing the game right now because he is so competitive.

Next is the big 2-on-1 date.  These are truly pressure cookers.  Not fun for anyone involved at all, especially for Emily.

The date with Nate and Jon was just what we expected, awkward and weird.  Nate crying about missing his family and all that I don’t think set very well with Emily, and he did seem very young for some reason.  I can’t put my finger on why.  It was not just the crying but just ….IDK…something. He just seemed wet behind the ears.  Both very nice guys though.  It’s too bad one has to go. Sorry Nate.

I like when a guy has some confidence about himself.  Ryan however is really saying things that lean more toward the arrogant side.  I would like to say this about it though…

He clearly grew up playing sports and still is involved in this lifestyle and when you are a top caliber athlete you are taught and told to always be confident and want the last shot and the ball in crunch time and it is sometimes very difficult to draw the line of confidence and cockiness especially if you win at most of them.

Every good athlete has a swagger and smells like confidence when they walk into the room, but some let it go a little to far and I think that is what we have here.  A lifetime of this, that has yet to be checked.  Does not make it cool or right by any means, but just by watching that is what it looks like to me.  I think deep down he is good dude.

I only say this in his defense because I have had some of the same issues and have stuck my foot in my mouth a lot of times or bit off more than I could chew because of my pride and confidence.  It’s a hard line to draw sometimes when that is all you know and your whole life has been about.  If you never played high-level competitive sports you can’t understand what I’m talking about and won’t understand but that is ok.

Chris seems like such a mature guy for his age.  Him and Doug have this whole thing going on, lots of tension between the two of them. Chris asked Doug to come outside and talk with him about it, Man to Man.

This is a great way to confront and kill a problem between two guys in my opinion.  They bicker a bit but I don’t think they actually got much accomplished unfortunately.  They will in the future though on or after the show I guarantee it.  They are both good dudes.

I was really hoping to see more of Kalon’s awesomeness on this show!  We did not get to see him at all!!!  No drama with him.  Boooooo.

This show was a little slow for me?  IDK.  I think it is missing a real villain that we all love to hate on.  As much as we don’t like them they do bring some entertainment to the show.  What do you think?

At the Rose Ceremony Charlie and the longhaired guy whom I don’t even know his name “Rico Suave” we will call him are sent home.  I was sad to see Charlie go.  He was one of my favorite guys on the show and I loved his dog.

I hope next week picks up a little bit.  Until then you all have a great week and I will get back on here in a few days to answer some questions and debate with you. J

Take care



  1. After reading your comments on Ryan, I understand his personality a lot better now! I have this feeling that he IS a good guy but he’s just… well, you explained it perfectly.

    I also feel like this episode was a little slow for me too. Maybe the 1 on 1 was a bit uneventful, and the 2 on 1 was plain awkward. And I missed Kalon too! Nothing on him at all!

    Hopefully the next episode will have more interesting dates and interaction.

    How do you feel about Jef, Dave?

    Comment by Jeanne — June 6, 2012 @ 11:22 am

  2. I totally disagree with you about Ryan!

    I mean – I played a lot of competitve sports. I don’t speak (nor think) like that.

    And I watched your season two, and I don’t ever remember you taking it as far as he does.

    He’s definitely handsome, etc – butttt, not nearly as handsome or awesome as he thinks. Also – look at Emily’s body language with him, she ain’t digging it either.

    Love your blogs though!

    Comment by Siobhan — June 6, 2012 @ 11:27 am

  3. I like Doug, I think he handled himself very classy with Arie who looks and acts childish and was being an immature pest calling Doug “nervous” for his date, and how about Chris.. way toooo competitive, he went nuts over the age comments by everyone and took it out on Doug.

    Comment by Ann — June 6, 2012 @ 11:28 am

  4. Great blog Dave, I feel like Ryan is conceited and disrespectful, I will have to see something else from him to think otherwise. “Trophy Wife” come on, I feel like he is jealous of the other guys and it brings out this behavior. I think Arie is less mature than Chris, he acts like a teen. I can’t wait to see more of Sean and Jef. I think next week we will see a side of Kalon we don’t want to see. Thanks again. PS are you in a serious relationship with the lady I read about on the boat with you? Just curious, she was pretty.

    Comment by Roberta — June 6, 2012 @ 1:07 pm

  5. With Ryan, it isn’t just the competitiveness…there’s a stilted weirdness that seems like it comes from some verrrryyyy conservative views, and an almost total inability to read Emily at all.

    Comment by Jennifer — June 6, 2012 @ 1:24 pm

  6. I agree with you on another blog Dave! I def think Ryan is a good guy inside, and maybe the way the show is edited, he seems a little off. I do believe the show looks for someone to “villan-ify” each season. I think that he’s trying to channel in his athelete in him to help progress on the show. I remember back on Jillian’s season, they made you out to be a villian and you turned out to be just a guy with a good heart deep down. Great blog! Until next week <3

    Comment by Susan — June 6, 2012 @ 1:33 pm

  7. I actually watched my first episode to see what all the talk about Ryan was about. Call me crazy, but I thought he was teasing Emily alot and just having some fun with her. She doesn’t seem very capable of laughing, but I could tell on the group date that she was trying to have a little laugh with him. I guess the powers to be are deciding to make him the bad guy. You know there is a pile of editing going on when you never see and hear him make a complete sentence without it being broken up with commentary. People need to get smarter about the games the producers play.

    I found the episode very dull. I am trying to be interested in this season, because I am sure Emily deserves love, but if the previous episodes were the same, it is really dragging.

    I think Emily has to stop focusing on finding a father for Ricki and future sperm donor, and just concentrate on finding someone to love her. The rest will come.

    Comment by tj — June 6, 2012 @ 2:48 pm

  8. I am hoping that Ryan is the one she yells to leave.
    Things must catch up with him. Dear God what an EGO
    this guy has. It’s ok if you don’t show it. I
    like a man with confidence, but this is too much.
    You’ve gotta go man. Sorry.

    Comment by Patsy Davis — June 6, 2012 @ 3:13 pm

  9. Actually Ryan, I forgot to say. You are very handsome and appealing but you sure spoil all of that with your
    ugly DEMEANOR!! Get real, it might get you something someday.

    Comment by Patsy Davis — June 6, 2012 @ 3:17 pm

  10. I agree that Ryan is probably a real competitor and I think his edit is REALLY bad. I am tolerant of guys like him….he is just a little immature, and hopefully will learn from this. I don’t think he is able to express himself verbally very well. Doug, too has been through A LOT and I think that tends to make a person far too serious and diminishes a sense of humor too. I think being on a show like this must be brutal. Thanks for the recap. I like Arie- his sense of humor and easy going nature. Don’t like him for Emily though. Doesn’t seem ready to really settle down- maybe still a bit of a player??

    Comment by emm — June 6, 2012 @ 3:19 pm

  11. I’ve been married for 30 years to that successful athlete that you describe. This is not Ryan and it certainly isn’t a gentleman from the south. He comes across as spoiled by his momma telling him he God’s gift to the earth, never mind women.Problem is that he never believed it. Confidence in yourself or your athletic abilities really has nothing to do with acting and speaking to women (or anyone for that matter) like an a$$. If you have true confidence you don’t need to go around telling people that you’re great. A person with no confidence in themselves is the one that does those things. Because hey, if you don’t tell them how will they know?

    Ryan and Emily would never work, even if she picked him. He would need to be the prettiest one in the relationship and with Emily that wouldn’t be the case.

    As far as Chris goes, for someone claiming to be so mature he sure is acting like a big baby! Again, no confidence. It’s so unattractive!

    Comment by Sherry — June 6, 2012 @ 3:32 pm

  12. I agree with you Sherry!!

    Comment by Mary — June 6, 2012 @ 6:13 pm

  13. TJ touched on something that is true with Emily in this season so far is that she sometimes treats the guys like prospective employees. There are times I wish she would just be not so compulsive in being a mom and just relax. Nothing wrong with grilling be for crying out loud lady ease up with the interrogations!

    Comment by Maria C — June 7, 2012 @ 3:18 am

  14. Thoughtful blog, David. A different perspective then others. I don’t relate to Ryan, but I am sure he is a “type” and might very well be a good guy under all the huff and puff. but, not someone that i would want to be father to my kids (poor kids!). This season is boring, but I like E , and hope for the best for her and R.

    Comment by suzi Q — June 7, 2012 @ 6:46 am

  15. I agree with Sherry–Ryan has definitely let that confidence from athletics go to his head, but apparently he missed his whole preacher’s advice to treat a woman like a queen! He is really disrespectful with how he talks to her, and even when he explained it as flirting, Emily hung her head in her heads. I think he’s a good guy with wrong priorities. No woman wants to be told she better keep in shape or else. What guy wants that either? Obviously Emily even admitted she never works out–and look at her! She doesn’t need to. We’ve all seen her mother, she inherited some great genes and will probably never have to worry about weight, which makes it even weirder that Ryan is pressing the issue so much. Good for her for not being as shallow~!

    Comment by Beth — June 7, 2012 @ 12:44 pm

  16. PS–his comment “If you ain’t cheatin’ you ain’t tryin…” I think speaks loads of his character. I can just picture Emily thinking, “He would be saying that to my kids…and they’d take him seriously. If I marry him, I’d be the mom of the bully kids that cheat at everything to win….yeAH RIGHT, see ya Ryan!”

    Comment by Beth — June 7, 2012 @ 12:46 pm

  17. First of all, I am finding this season very boring. Especially this last episode.

    “I FEEL LIKE I HAVE A HIGHER CALLING”…omg Ryan you have shown your true colours now and gone down hill quite quickly I agree. I think your right on one thing: you WILL continue to be a bachelor but not the one you are wishing for…

    Chris and Doug are out of my books too.

    TJ and Maria C hit the nail dead on….I also felt like Emily was giving job interviews. I actually looked at my friend as we were watching it and said as much a few times. Kinda found it all weird.

    Comment by Carmen — June 7, 2012 @ 2:19 pm

  18. Dave I’m glad you are giving Ryan the benefit of the doubt or perhaps offering a different view of him. Hopefully, you are right. I personally think that he would like to “win” for the sake of winning.. But would prefer to have his own show, by any means necessary, so HE can do the pickin. I don’t believe he really wants to take on a kid. Or maybe not her kid idk that sounds harsh but honestly he doesn’t seem that into her. I like Jef..? ( that’s the skater boy right?) it’s weird cuz it seems like Em really digs him and he seems great but it’s odd cuz he looks like such a boy to me and I feel they would make a kind of odd looking Couple. Ok one last thing.. Does the bachelor/bachelorette have a kind of a list of qualities they want in these prospective suitors? I mean, all these guys ( for the most part) are buff muscle guys and this is the first season I’ve really noticed that to be the case. Just curious. Lol .. Also, to the comment earlier I don’t personally think saying you don’t work out means your not shallow. Just because someone might like to work out to be healthy and/or not be over weight doesn’t make them a shallow/vain person. IMO

    Comment by Shawna — June 7, 2012 @ 4:32 pm

  19. I dig you and all David…but just wanna know….why cant I comment on Michael Staglianos last blog because that is some of the funniest…..stuff…..I have EVER READ!!! And I have read alot of these!!Ha ha ha! Michael!!! You killed it!
    and you are cool too David. LOL!

    Comment by Marie — June 7, 2012 @ 6:31 pm

  20. Dave I watched your season and let me be honest – I didn’t like you much. However, now I have this secret crush on you. I love reading your blogs and I can see you have a good heart. Thanks for your insight.

    Comment by Sirena — June 9, 2012 @ 7:00 am

  21. I think Ryan is funny. The trophy wife comment was cute. They are all on The Bachelorette hoping to meet their future wife and the trophy for the winners of the sailing race was time with Emily. Ryan seems playful, viewers are taking him too seriously.

    Comment by GW — June 9, 2012 @ 10:40 am

  22. Why does Sean chew on Emily’s upper lip when he kisses her?

    Comment by jameseast — June 22, 2012 @ 8:24 am

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