David Good’s Bachelorette Blog: Episode 9

So we have 3 studly men left…Sean, Arie, and Jef.  The beginning of the show wastes 15 minutes of our time recapping each guys “journey to find love.”  This is all fine and dandy for those 4 people in the world that are just tuning into the season on the second to last episode but for the rest of us 9 million have been robbed of 15 minutes of life we can never get back.

Sean is up first with Emily and they are flying to their very own private Island, Curacao or something?  It is literally an island with nothing on it in the middle of the ocean.  Seems like a really good date for Sean who likes walks in parks and is laid back.  There is pretty much nothing else to do but talk on this island.  They showed them about to snorkel, which would have been cool to see under that clear blue water but then kissed in the water and cut to commercial?

They engage in some super boring talk and then swim.  I am sorry but there is really nothing to even say right now.   All I can hear is crickets.  I don’t mean just because it is boring but because ALL I CAN HEAR IS CRICKETS IN THE BACKGROUND!

Sean and Emily decide to go to the fantasy suite for a few hours but she does not want him to spend the night.  I think this is a good idea and shows how much Emily cares about Ricki.

From the vibe of the date if I had to guess at this point who was going home I would have to say Sean.  L  I really like him but now just don’t see much chemistry between them.

At this point in the show I can always start to see who is going to be sent home because it is just hard to fake it when you know who you are letting go.  It would take a real SOB to be able to just lead them on without any conscious thought about it, and Emily is not that person.  You can tell she is going to be upset about sending anyone home at this point.

Jef is next and it is pretty much the same date.  Jef does have some good questions he asked Emily at dinner.  My favorite is the one when he asked “why she is still single at her age.”  I’m looking at the TV going “wait…aren’t they the same age.”  Lolol Probably the same reason you are still single Jef.  She wears Skinny Jeans.  I’m joking, I’m joking.  Skinny Jeans are the cool thing, I guess.  What is next?  Dudes wearing bras and stuff?   Maybe some high heals to match them…

A funny part of the show (which are few and far between right now) is when Emily asked Jef about the fantasy suite and HE turns it down.  Hahahahaaha.  She is like WTF??  Good for him though for beating her to the punch!

They go and talk for a little bit then Jef goes home.  Yay.

Arie is up next and they actually do something that I have always wanted to do but haven’t yet.  Swim with dolphins!  I see them all the time out back of my place and they are so smart.  They will swim right up and turn sideways and just look at me like “hello you weird thing, why aren’t you in the water?”  If I had to come back as an animal it would be a spoiled dog or a dolphin.  LOL.

Anyway, Emily is scared of the dolphins so this is short lived. Who is scared of a dolphin?  That is like being scared of a butterfly or dandelion.

“No, no please don’t make me walk through the grass…. there are butterfly’s and dandelions out there!”

The rest of the date is Arie sticking his tongue down Emily’s throat.  That is about it.  No fantasy suite again, she didn’t trust herself enough to even offer him the chance she said.

At the Rose Ceremony Sean does end up going home.  I gotta say he is a class act and I hope I have the pleasure of meeting him sometime soon.  It was sad to see him go but as he probably knows now it was just not there.  No big deal.  Good dude and he will be fiiiiiine I am sure.

This episode was really lacking for me as in probably the hardest to get through and watch in all the shows since I have been on and have been following.  This brings me to another train of thought.

America says they love Emily and how “good and wholesome” she is, but from what I have read the last show where she did “all the right things” by not going to the fantasy suite and blah blah blah got horrible reviews from everyone I know.

It really is such a double standard for girls because Jason had a kid on the show and went to 3 or 4 fantasy suites and nobody said a word or cared what so ever.  It was never really even brought up.  Crazy how people view things in this world and what is considered OK and NOT OK.

What are your thoughts on this?


  1. Dave: you said in the beginning of this season that you weren’t sure emily, a single mom, was doing the respectable thing by even being the bachelorette, but now you are saying “crazy people” are judging her for possibly going into the fantasy suite.
    maybe you are questioning your own thoughts and judgements at this time? food for thought.

    Comment by lt — July 13, 2012 @ 12:16 pm

  2. I respect Emily for not sharing the fantasy suite. I wouldn’t have either. Maybe just to talk but not sleeping together. I would respect the families watching and also of course the one you pick probably wouldn’t like watching that either.

    Comment by Kay — July 13, 2012 @ 12:30 pm

  3. I don’t know who they are going to have for the next bachelor, for sure, but I hope it is someone with a bit of a personality. The last enjoyable season was when Ashley fell in love with JP. It may have been a little rough at times, but we saw someone with passion for life, who let us in on her journey and made us want to pull for her and for her to fall in love with a great guy.

    Ben’s season was a disaster, and this season with Emily is really boring. Emily may be a great person, and she is definitely pretty to look at, whether natural or manufactured, but my, she has no passion, no expression, no real joy in her. This definitely does not translate well to a television show.

    I wish her the best, but unbelievably for me, I can’t wait for BP3 to hopefully see some excitement and passion, and fun, and adventure.

    Comment by tj — July 13, 2012 @ 1:20 pm

  4. good blog. I think even though ratings might have been lower, she can save herself and her daughter any ridicule or insults not to mention I am sure the her final guy will be happy about that.

    Comment by Melissa — July 13, 2012 @ 1:26 pm

  5. Dave I like your blog however there wasn’t any dept to it and I think that Emily did the right thing however I would of gone in the suit and do what I had to do and come out like nothing happened-lol thats just me. I think Emily dupped me when she didn’t bring Arie into the suit-I was waiting patiently for that because I knew what would of went down. Never-the-less she handled herself very well and she should be proud of herself!

    Comment by Akesha — July 13, 2012 @ 1:59 pm

  6. Funny no one has mentioned the previews of Sean for next week. Maybe because the show with previews ran overtime?

    Comment by lk — July 13, 2012 @ 2:03 pm

  7. Dave, Thank you for bringing up the double standard–yes, it is ridiculous that it apparently still exists to some degree.
    I does seem that young men now have a more mature attitude toward women ( more or less) than in my day (the silly ’70′s).
    One thing I wonder about when watching these contrived “reality” shows: Do young men not care that women like Emily have had extensive cosmetic surgery etc and would look quite different if they were au natural as we were back in the day? What do you think? ~Sabrina

    Comment by Maturesillyintellectual — July 13, 2012 @ 2:18 pm

  8. I’m glad you brought up the ‘double standard’ thing because after this show I was thinking the same thing about how Jason was a single parent and nobody said a word about his using the Fantasy Suite. Why was that okay for him but not okay for Emily to do the same???

    Comment by Linda — July 13, 2012 @ 3:28 pm

  9. Its not a double standard imo.

    Jason was not really a “single parent”, since Ty’s mother was still alive and shared custody.

    Ricki only have Emily, Ty didnt not only have Jason.

    Comment by Angry S — July 13, 2012 @ 3:53 pm

  10. Enjoyed the recap. I was thinking the same thing — how could someone be scared of a dolphin. Compare that to Courtney holding a tarantula.

    Comment by Sarah Whitney — July 13, 2012 @ 4:32 pm

  11. She went into the fantasy suite with Arie. I am not sure why they didn’t show it. Probably cause it was rated X. He said it on a radio show that she gave him the fantasy suite card. That was before it aired and I guess he didn’t know they edited it out. Very interesting if you ask me.

    Comment by Becca — July 13, 2012 @ 5:01 pm

  12. @Becca — That is indeed very interesting.

    Comment by Sarah Whitney — July 13, 2012 @ 5:52 pm

  13. Love your blog, especially the comment about being scared of butterflies and dandelions. LOL I think they edited out the Arie fantasy suite because maybe she decided to choose Jef and didn’t want Jef to have to see her go to the fantasy suite with Arie. What do you think, Dave?

    Comment by Kelly — July 13, 2012 @ 9:35 pm

  14. Sean is so hot. I was almost blinded by his perfect abs.Emily must be on crack to let such a fine specimen go like that.

    Comment by Paulina — July 13, 2012 @ 9:42 pm

  15. I literally laughed outloud to this week’s blot posting! You summed up so perfectly the wasted airtime on their respective “journey[s] to love”!
    To be fair, I must admit I’m likewise terrified of dolphins! They remind me too much of sharks! And there have been documented incidences of dolphins attacking humans. So there! :o )
    Can’t agree more about the sexist fantasy suite double standard!
    “Spoiled dog” LOL!

    Comment by Jennifer — July 13, 2012 @ 10:01 pm

  16. I like your blog and the thought you are putting into it. You are constantly concerned about how all of this will affect her daughter, and that shows a good heart and the right priorities. I really applaud Emily for making the decision she did. Not many people will go on TV and say “Hey, yeah, it’s hard not to, and we really want to, but we are actually going to use this little thing called self-control because in the long run, it’s not in our best interest. PS our families are watching!”. Absolutly loved that she did that!

    I think the episode was a bit boring because there was no “turning points”. Last week, huge turning point for her in Jef as he emerged a front runner. Before that, Sean (and Jef still) started to stand out. This week though? It just helped us understand why Sean was being let go. We didn’t see a huge leap in development with either Arie or Jef though.

    I would LOVE to swim with dolphins, and totally agree with you on the “what animal would I come back as” question–haha! THanks for posting!

    Comment by Beth — July 14, 2012 @ 1:06 am

  17. The reason I think Emily turned down the fantasy suite dates is because she felt like she had to keep up her image which she started on Brad’s season. I think it’s nothing wrong with a woman who has a child to do that compared to a man. It’s about the person: Emily and the image she is trying to portray of herself (and already did on Brad’s season, especially hearing how she was upset he did that on ATFR) and that kind of role model she wants to be and I respect that.
    But I am also annoyed with those people who would judge her based on that she is a woman and has a child.
    Also, there is some double standard in Emily fighting with Brad about the women he kissed etc when it was obvious she was the one, while she herself has kissed more guys way more passionately. (But whatever I say way to go Em! ;) )

    P.S. Iwas wondering who is that David Good since I never watched your season so I youtubed you and found Men Tell All. LOL, what’s up with all those people?! I’m a woman and I think it’s nothing wrong with complimenting a woman’s ass. But I suppoe when you’re on TV you’re expected to say the “perfec things” from love novels and whatever. I also never saw what they liked about Jake cuz he seemed fake to me, but hey sometimes fakeness is what works best on tv. That’s why I’m sceptical about all those “perfect people”. That’s also why I like Ryan from Em’s season, he seems genuine! Who is to say he wouldn’t or couldn’t fall as much in love as anybody just because he didn’t know how to sweet talk a girl the right way (like Sean, Arie and Jef). That’s also why I’m so sceptical of the “perfect” Sean.

    Sorry for the long post, but I apparently feel strongly about this (fake, but good on tv vs real). :P

    Comment by SJ — July 14, 2012 @ 1:23 am

  18. Arie is successful, very charming/good looking they look good together, Jef i like him for Emily too but they just look like brother and sister together….. reality steve was saying Jef and Emily are now engaged? i hope they will last.

    Comment by dyne — July 14, 2012 @ 5:52 am

  19. You seem to know Emily… has she ever called you too out on saying she comes with a lot of baggage before in interviews;-)?

    Comment by Claire — July 14, 2012 @ 8:01 am

  20. Awesome stuff here! I know this blog was not great but honestly it is getting hard to write about and painful for me to sit through and watch. This is not really my kind of show to begin with but when it gets to this point and I see no real passion or villains to go after it just sucks for me. Emily is a great girl but the show is just blah.
    I think this is the last time they should have someone with a kid on the show. It really does change the dynamic (as it should) but it tones it down quite a bit. So sorry for the lameness. I know that I said when asked a long time ago if Emily should be the Bachelorette with a kid I said “no.” That was before I had spent time with her and realized how much she cared for Ricki and WOULD and HAS done the right things for her. In a few interviews I said I had changed my mind on that but good memory!

    Comment by David Good — July 14, 2012 @ 8:51 am

  21. Hey now, no need to apologize! Thought the blog was good! Look forward to hearing more of your thoughts next week.

    Comment by ALWAYS A DAVE FAN — July 14, 2012 @ 2:07 pm

  22. I have to agree about this episode being boring, though I respect Em’s choice not to use fantasy suites all night. I love Sean and think he would have been the best choice. Sad to see him go. I badly miss Ryan, who brought some humor and fun to the show. If I was Jef though, I would not like the Arie kissing scenes much.

    Comment by Phoebe — July 15, 2012 @ 8:46 am

  23. Dave first off good call on Sean from your last blog. No spark. The double standard I do agree with and people forgot she did accept the Fantasy Suite from Brad on The Bachelor even if it is to talk. I would like to add that Jef may be sweet and caring but some of his actions seem a bit too calculated that he let Emily chase him not the other way around. Him turning down the Fantasy Suite making her wait is a good idea on his part but like I said its a bit calculated. IMHO. :)

    I don’t know what is the hulabaloo about Sean being let go. He may be perfect but Emily didn’t think so so how can Sean be “the best choice?” She sent him home!

    There have been people hailing Emily the best Bachelorette etc, etc but truth is its hard for me to watch her cause personality-wise she’s rather flat unlike Jillian who remains my fave and even Ali. When Ryan and Kalon were eliminated it just got…well down hill.

    Comment by Maria C — July 15, 2012 @ 10:58 am

  24. Now I feel bad for my comment David. Don’t think you need to apologize to anybody, in case it was my comment that you were answering to. Just messing with you. One is of course allowed to change opinion.

    Comment by Claire — July 15, 2012 @ 11:03 am

  25. I live in Dallas and Sean is certainly having a great time! I doubt he will have any trouble finding a date anytime soon despite him being “selective”!

    Comment by samantha — July 15, 2012 @ 4:30 pm

  26. Good blog. I’m glad you summarize things instead of going to ridiculous detail like some do. I don’t think there was anything wrong with her not taking them to the fantasy suites. I could have cared less!

    Comment by Sarah O — July 16, 2012 @ 7:46 am

  27. I’m actually loving this less tame version of The Bachelorette. Compared to the last Bachelor, at least it’s not trashy. Besides, I prefer seeing conversation instead of everyone taking a leap of faith off a cliff to prove they are worthy of the lead.

    Now if we could just get the producers to stop editing the show into something that it’s not and instead try to be more reality then that would be the most dramatic show evah!

    BTW, I too loved your butterfy and dandelion comment. Clever. lol

    Comment by ilja — July 16, 2012 @ 10:08 am

  28. I agree that reality shows should be shown the way they happened. Life cannot be edited, so don’t try. You are producers, so leave the participants alone.

    Comment by caree goodwin — July 16, 2012 @ 3:56 pm

  29. This is such a ridiculous show as normal relationships aren’t formed this way, but yes it is a double standard. I would at least get to third base all three guys so I’d know what I’m in for. I mean, I don’t want to be asking for the rest of my life “Is it in yet, honey?”

    Comment by Dave's Stalker — July 16, 2012 @ 4:09 pm

  30. Am watching the last three episodes. I said I wouldn’t, and here I am. Yes, I’m shallow: can’t stand the woman; it’s those teeth; she’s too perfect; she’s too nice; she’s just not normal; those teeth; what a turn off.

    Comment by Jackson — July 16, 2012 @ 7:38 pm

  31. Sean is the MAN. She should pick Sean He is a very good guy and he is Real and I believe he really loves her and would make a great father for her daughter. jm

    Comment by Janis — July 16, 2012 @ 10:11 pm

  32. Sean is the man she needs. He would have been a great husband and a good father for her daughter

    Comment by Janis — July 16, 2012 @ 10:12 pm

  33. @Jamis Maybe Sean is good on paper. Perfect for Emily and Ricki but alas reality always tells a different story.

    Comment by Maria C — July 17, 2012 @ 2:22 am

  34. Ops sorry. Typed the wrong key. Sorry Janis. :D

    Comment by Maria C — July 17, 2012 @ 2:25 am

  35. C’mon Dave, give us the MTA from the bachelor perspective!! We’re waiting for you — you offer good insights … even when you are bored … ha ha!

    Comment by ALWAYS A DAVE FAN — July 18, 2012 @ 7:36 pm

  36. i love you dave the butterflies and dandelions quote was perfection

    Comment by nicole — July 19, 2012 @ 5:57 pm

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