David Good’s Bachelorette Blog: Finale

Tonight we get to see the men meet with Emily’s family.  This is always a nerve racking experience let alone on national television.

Jef is the first to come in and meet Emily’s family.  We have not seen much of her family this season so it is nice to have them on the show to see how they all interact.  They seem like a great group so far.

I know I make fun and tease Jef about his skinny jeans and what not but I think he is awesome.  I in all honesty could give 2 sh#ts about what he wears.  I just do try to be funny at times.  He seems like a great guy.  He seems like a fun fit and is a cute little fella for Emily.  At this point he is def my fav over Arie.

Emily’s brother sits down with Jef and he is drilling him.  I like her brother.  He seems like a straightforward guy and I like how he is protective over her.  He also talks and looks just like her dad.

Jef handled himself very well and you could tell that he was not faking the words he was saying to them.  Real emotion was coming out.

Arie is next to meet the family and I gotta say going second is a huge disadvantage.  I feel for the guy.  Jef has set the bar very high.  Arie really seems to be handling himself well though and I think the family sees what Emily see’s in him and they all seem as confused as Emily as to who she should pick.

Emily’s dad comes out and says, “I don’t believe you can love 2 people at one time.”

This is where I am confused.  Do you think you can only love one person like that at a time?   Can you love 2, 3 or even 4 people like that?  I am not sure I could do that.  I feel like there is a difference between LOVING someone and being IN LOVE with someone.  What are your thoughts?

This is a good problem to have for Emily but still a problem that involves feelings either way and is going to make it very hard.

Emily decides to finally introduce Jef to Ricki.  Jef is super good with her and I gotta say that his personality really shines when he interacts with her.

Believe it or not I love kids and this would have been the best part of the whole show for me.  I just gained a lot of man-to-man respect for the guy just from this part alone.

Watching Jef and Emily together halfway through the show I feel like I don’t need to watch the rest of this because they have so much more chemistry than Arie and Emily do.

Emily sits down with Chris and tells him that her mind is made up and that she wants to be with Jef.  She is pretty upset about having to tell Aria and understandably.  This is always the hardest part of the show and it actually sucks to watch someone get his or her heart broken on national TV but that is what you sign up for a guess.

When her and Arie sit down she tells him and his reaction is shock and sadness then anger, which is to be expected.  He actually handles it pretty well.  I am sure Arie is going to be fine though.  He is a good-looking guy and a good dude.

So after this long journey we are down to the two of them and Jef is picking out rings!  He is super nervous about asking her but I have a feeling he is not going to be let down.

When they meet up Emily finally opens up to Jef and tells him he is the only one.  Jef finally gets down on one knee and pops the questions and Emily SAY’S YES!  Good for the two of them!  I hope they can make this work.  Two awesome people right there.  I wish them luck.

This season had its ups and downs for me and although it was not my favorite I am happy with the outcome and glad they found each other.

Up next… Bachelor Pad 3!!!!

Have a great week!



  1. Emily and Jef really seem perfect for each other! A huge congrats for them. After watching this episode I want a Jef myself. I have faith in them, he seems like the most chill, fun and dramafree guy. Jef and Ricki were also such a great match. Wish all the best for their little family and hope they will be one of the rare couples like Trista and Ryan to make it through everything.
    I was surprised that Jef would be moving to Charlotte, especially since he asked Emily about her living in his hometown. What a great guy though, his priority is Ricki and their family already.
    Good pick Emily, good pick!

    Comment by SJ — July 25, 2012 @ 11:50 am

  2. Great blog Dave, I feel like watching this unfold Jef and Emily had the important discussions and they concerned themselves with their families and Ricki which was awesome to me. They have built a great foundation by talking and I look forward to their future together as a family. They are heading to Africa for a mission trip to build wells, something they discussed on their first night per Jef, already another thing they have in common. Thanks for your input this season.

    Comment by Roberta — July 25, 2012 @ 12:30 pm

  3. Why are you surprised that he is moving to Charlotte? Doesn’t anyone get her yet? Geez some people have to be hit over the head to see what a prima donna she is. Did you not pick up on the statement when the mom said to Jef she needs someone to wait on her hand and foot

    Comment by Becca — July 25, 2012 @ 12:31 pm

  4. Not surprised the two of them ended up together.
    In opposition to all the other guys on the show AND all the guys in America, Jef was not into Emily beause of her looks.
    while everybody else were (and still are) kissing her ass and constantly complimenting her looks or personality barely knowing her, Jef took a step back and seemed to focus on what is important: The world is full of sweet gorgeous women, the question is: Is this girl a good match for me? Do we share the same values, humor, do we get each other, have a nice balance to our relationship? How would I fit into her life and with her daughter, this is actually not going to work long term or in real life if I and her daughter do not fit together.
    Instead of having the need to flash his face on tv or try to convince Emily to keep him around, looks like he trusted that it could cork out if they are a fit and if not, he did not have to flash his face on tv.
    That guy has reality sense and I hope they treat each other well.

    Becca, like you in not surprised he is moving to Charlotte. Emily said she will be fine moving to Austin with Brad too and one of their main issues seems to be that after the show was over, she did not want to move from Charlotte because Ricki had her friends there. Fine enough, but why not be upfront about it with the guys while on the show?

    Comment by Claire — July 25, 2012 @ 1:12 pm

  5. The best part of the entire season for me was the AFTR because that was the only chance we got to see Arie, Emily and Jef UNEDITED.

    Comment by Dee — July 25, 2012 @ 1:24 pm

  6. I think that the only reason he is moving to charlotte is so that ricki doesn’t have to leave her friends and can start school. Once they are married i can see all three of them moving to salt lake city or somewhere different to get out of spotlight. I dont understand why people think she is a spoiled little brat. She has a good head on her shoulders and at the forefront of all her decisions is her daughter i think thats the main reason they arent moving quite yet. Let her daughter get used to having Jef in their life and go from there.

    Comment by jb — July 25, 2012 @ 1:28 pm

  7. I’m going to order life-like silicone dolls that looks just like Blakely and that fan chick in the bikini. They don’t talk back or express opinions so that’s great and it’s warm and I can even cuddle with them. If anyone is interested, just google “human-size silicone dolls.” You have to make sure you clean all the orifices regularly though. And don’t beat up the dolls – I had an off day and banged up one of my dolls and her face is deformed and I am so mad at myself for doing that. I am going to order soon and am so excited. I have 3 sitting in my apartment (Kelli, Mandi & Cyndi). Kelli is my “wife” and the other two are girlfriends. Best thing I have EVER done for myself since the lawsuits and restraining orders.

    Comment by Bachobserver31 — July 25, 2012 @ 1:48 pm

  8. Sorry I entered before I was finished.
    Emily started playing Arie like a flute from Prague and the whole producer story (which is where she says she fell hard for Jef) and when she didn’t invite Arie for the Fantasy Suite Date, I knew she was already trying to save face. Why in the world would you be scared to spend time with someone you love. I wondered at the time why Arie was not offended.

    I get her and Jef, and we have mostly the editing to thank for that. Do we really believe that Jef is so perfect.. okay give the man the Nobel Peace Prize already and give Emily the Emmy for Best Actress in a Reality Show she made out with the runner up umpteen more times than the winner! The passion between her and Jef is still being bridled I imagine but nothing even remotely in comparison to Ashley and JP.

    One thing is certain Jef and his family are no puppets, and I loved the way he talked her into meeting Ricki, he’s definitely not a push over. I could see Arie completely backing down and trying to please her, which I believe was his major downfall, he became less challenging.

    We don’t know the things said between Emily and Arie, but we know that when the time came for her to be honest, she gave some pretty lame excuses and if you watched her AFTR with Brad she had no problems being direct. Wished she had returned the journal off camera the same way she got it !

    My prediction is that Jef and Arie will be friends no matter what happens between Jef and Emily pretty much like Roberto and Chris. Not sure I want Arie to be the next Bachelor, after what happened with Ben.

    No doubt in my mind that Jef will try to make the relationship work especially with Ricki involved,he’s that kind of stand up guy and yes we all knew she wasn’t moving anywhere. I just think Emily is going to try to change him or guilt him into changing but I’m willing to bet that they won’t be marching down the aisle unless his family and church approves :-)

    Comment by Dee — July 25, 2012 @ 2:06 pm

  9. I really don’t think emily is as nice as people think, i mean come on! the way she treated Arie at the end was just so belittling, for a guy that was there for her through out emotionally, very attentive towards her, he deserved a better treatment from her. For instance Arie’s journal, for crying out loud Arie gave her that journal in private and she should ve returned it in private!I lost all respect for her and frankly speaking i think she was playing Arie all along. I really liked her but now my opinion about her has really changed, i think she’s selfish and very self-centered.

    Comment by Ann — July 25, 2012 @ 3:16 pm

  10. @Ann: How is Emily “belittling” when she’s just telling Arie how she feels and what her heart is telling her? She said herself on the ATFR that she could’ve handled that situation better, but that was what came to her in that moment…she wasn’t acting for the cameras. As for the journal thing well maybe she could’ve given it back off camera but I don’t think she would’ve said “I want to give it back to you but I’ll do it during a commercial break”

    Comment by Tina — July 25, 2012 @ 3:31 pm

  11. ok so for all of those saying that Emily did not treat Arie fairly or well at the end I would say relax a little. She did not want to put him through a date once she was sure that she made her decision which shows a lot of respect towards him. If she was intending on leading him on, she could have gone on a date with him kissed him some more and even let him propose. SHE DIDN’T. She could have given him fantasy suite card, but I out of respect for her daughter, herself, and two other men who were there who could have potentially ended up with her, SHE DIDN’T. She also could have read that journal, but the person that she is, SHE DIDN’T. Not only did she treat him with respect and spare him of humiliation of refusing his proposal at the end, but she also conducted herself with the most class and dignity. She did everything possible to spare her fiance the humiliation at the end. She did not allow herself to get loose and then put Jef through watching her on over nights with other dates or letting another guy propose to her. I think she did an amazing job conducting herself and could not have been a better bachelorette.

    Comment by Armina — July 25, 2012 @ 3:36 pm

  12. DAVE SAY IT AIN’T SO! I just read on the board that a tabloid quoted you as saying that Emily’s fun after a few drinks, but that she’s portraying herself too hard as a lady on the show and therefore it won’t last with Jef. Did you really say that?

    Have you considered that Jef had plenty of time to see the “un-poised” Emily with all the downtime when they’re off-camera waiting for the lights and cameras to get set up? Or that Emily did “let her hair down” but those moments were edited out?

    Don’t worry, I won’t be mad. I’ll still stalk you.

    Comment by Dave's Stalker — July 25, 2012 @ 5:08 pm

  13. Dave my man, word is that you and Emily are good friends. I don’t like that Emily loosens up and has fun. She should be poised, pretty and pleasing to men at all times. So are her cans real or fake? Fake, I hope. Please tell me. Thanks!

    Comment by Bachobserver_31 — July 25, 2012 @ 5:12 pm

  14. @Tina I think what Ann was saying the giving back the journal should not have been a public affair. Emily could have mailed the journal back or at least return it off camera and made it clear to Arie where he stands with her and be done with it. Yes she is engaged to Jef, yes Arie dropping off the journal was a bit inconsiderate but it was ALSO inconsiderate of Emily and in a way the producers to eve make this into a drama for public viewing but hey it is TV. Personally and IMO the journal matter could have been dealt with privately. The season was too rated G for and as Dave had pointed out in his recent the dynamics changed when there’s a child in the mix though that didn’t stop Jason having a hot tub date with Jillian. Sure there was romance but not much steam. There should a balance of both. As of Emily and Jef I wish them good luck on their journey in life as acouple with Ricki.

    Comment by Maria C — July 25, 2012 @ 8:21 pm

  15. i’ve read (reality steve) that Arie was Emily’s first choice but Arie rejected her(but they didn’t show it) i hope ARIE will be the next bachelor, he’s got the whole package.

    Comment by dyne — July 25, 2012 @ 9:01 pm

  16. @ Bachobserver_31

    Omigod you crazy perv, did you post on every blog here? Hope you’re having fun with your silicone dolls. Maybe you should go off and spend some extra time cleaning them, eh?

    Comment by Sophie — July 25, 2012 @ 10:49 pm

  17. @dyne Sorry not true even Reality Steve scoffed at the rumor and it never happened. I think Arie would be an interesting Bachelor but I do hope they cast better girls unlike in Ben’s season whoever becomes the next Bachelor.

    Comment by Maria C — July 26, 2012 @ 5:44 am

  18. LOVE the blog…
    To answer your question…I definitely believe that you can love more than one person at a time. I can’t imagine being on this show…it would be so hard.

    And what’s with the dude posting about silicone dolls?! I’m a little scared…

    Comment by Jennifer — July 26, 2012 @ 8:28 am

  19. LOL LOL Calm down girls(Sophie and Jennifer)Methinks Bachobserver is being highly sarcastic/satirical. He could be an on the level psycho—but I prefer to think he’s making a point about how idiotic the franchise is—certainly is entertaining!:)

    Comment by Maturesillyintellectual — July 26, 2012 @ 9:29 am

  20. I luv Jef’s personality. Hes genuine. He has shown that he is ready for little Ricki and a life with Emily. I am so happy to see these two together.

    As for the journal, it was Chris H that brought that up. He also brought up the fact that Arie started calling her. I am glad she did it publicly as I think she needed and wanted to make a public declaration for Jef.

    Comment by Carmen — July 26, 2012 @ 11:56 am

  21. @Maria C. Arie stormed out when Emily broke up with him. He could have wished her well, afterall this is a TV show and there are cameras all around. It’s not like he could just call her up and get back with her. What was he thinking??? That was also wrong of him to goto Charlette and give her the journal. Also, Arie brought it up on the After show. I thought it was nice she gave it back. She could’ve said she threw it away. People overlook how nice Emily really is.

    Comment by Natalie — July 26, 2012 @ 12:18 pm

  22. @ Sophie
    How sweet another woman trying to express her opinion. I keep my silicone dolls scrupulously clean, spend up to an hour bathing each one every day. Do you know what scrupulously means? Look it up.

    Comment by Bachobserver_31 — July 26, 2012 @ 1:55 pm

  23. I never said anything like that about Emily. I always stick up for her. I simply said that she lets loose after a few drinks and I don’t think we got to see how funny she is and how she can cut loose. I hope her and Jef workout and are both happy. I have not said anything about them not lasting. Where did you see this. Please let me know. Thank you!

    Comment by David Good — July 26, 2012 @ 3:49 pm

  24. Hey David,

    Here is the site that quotes you saying that you don’t think they will last… http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/25/emily-maynard-jef-holm_n_1701992.html
    I hope you didn’t mean it because they really do seem like the one couple that just might make it.

    Emily, when she drinks a little bit, comes out of her shell. A lot of people didn’t get to see how much fun Emily actually is, because she wanted to be so proper, [and was] so worried about her image,” he explained. “When somebody does that, they are not themselves. You never get to really see who they are and we didn’t get to see any other side of Emily apart from the mom. I don’t see her with any of those guys. I know that Jef proposed to her, but I don’t see them lasting very long.”

    Comment by Armina — July 26, 2012 @ 4:11 pm

  25. Dave, you should sue them!

    Comment by Dave's Stalker — July 26, 2012 @ 9:20 pm

  26. Or at least write on your next blog to clear up the rumors.

    Comment by Dave's Stalker — July 26, 2012 @ 9:20 pm

  27. @ Maturesillyintellectual – Good point and I wish you were right, but bachobserver_31 is a psycho creep who trolls the Bachelor/ette and Bachelor Pad boards. He’s always putting down women’s intelligence and talking about their body parts just to get into fights. He claims he has a wife and I couldn’t imagine who would marry him but a Silicone Doll makes perfect sense, lol!

    @ Jennifer – Don’t worry, bachobserver_31 is a moronic pissant. As women we should feel lucky that he has his inanimate dolls to take his frustrations out on.

    Comment by bachobserver_31 is a Creep — July 26, 2012 @ 9:26 pm

  28. Natalie, Ann and I were talking about the journal not why Arie stormed out…not that I blame him for that. And read my comment. Arie may have been inconsiderate to fly to Charlotte expecting Emily to read the journal. She could have mailed it back instead bringing it to AFTR. She had all the time to do that. Simple as that. Get it now?

    Comment by Maria C — August 1, 2012 @ 6:27 am

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