Erica and other’s have said: “Editing was bad for Melissa’s portrayal.” BUT if that’s true, why was everyone on the show saying how bad she was, and how emotionally out of control she was, so much so, that they voted her off, because they couldn’t deal with it anymore? Doesn’t sound like an editing issue to me…sounds like a relaity issue-
Comment by NorCal Batch Viewer — August 31, 2011 @ 9:37 pm
NorCal — even VIENNA, who has cried through two seasons of this franchise and a public break up special — said that Melissa was too emotional. I bet they were prompted by the producers to coordinate their message in the interest of type casting. The was cast as the crazy on this season.
Interesting Holly Durst interview with Reality Steve where Holly talks about how Jesse C. has bad moutaAaashed Holly and Deanna, his fame whorism, and how he has tried to exploit the Bachelor franchise for money. Very eye opening!
I don’t know if I believe her or not, but Melissa said on Jesse’s Bachelor Pad Beatdown this week that she was sent home since Michael rallied people against her after Blake broke his promise not to kiss Holly. Mike retaliated by voting off Blake’s partner, if I understood correctly.
I’m not clear why Melissa is defending Blake, but she was under the impression that he wanted to keep her on the show. Sure didn’t look that way to me, so not sure.
I think after reading Blakes blog, there is a whole side of Michael that we were not shown. He basically set up Blake and Holly on that date; thereby, throwing Blake under the bus by getting the whole house against him. I don’t for one minute think Michaels tears were genuine. I now believe he was probably auditioning to become the next bachelor.
I believe Melissa when she said Michael was getting back at Blake, because Michael realized he messed up. Too Late Michael.
Last week on the rose recap Michael said that he and Holly shared a few kisses on the date they had. Funny, but on last Mondays episode he said that the kissing contest was the first time he kissed Holly in three months. Get your facts straight Michael.
I would like to address this post to Melissa with the hope that she reads it.
Melissa, I can relate to the pain you experienced. I went through similar with two men in my youth.
I met a wonderful man online — he was handsome, kind, intelligent, professional. We also connected very well, and he courted me, and made me feel special. Needless to say, I feel hard for him. He gave me every reason to believe we would be together.
Then, one day, I stopped by to visit and saw he was flirting with other women, brazenly so. When I confronted him on it, he denied it, said it was all in my head. Imagine telling a woman this (gaslighting–a tactic narcissists often use). I could see with my own eyes that he was flirting and yet he was denying it. I could also tell he had been intimate with him. Like Holly, they were shamelss. They sent him nude pictures, wrapped their legs around him and flirted with him in front of me.
As a “good woman,” I never would have done such a thing to another woman. When I started crying over what he was doing, as it tored me up and really seared my soul, he turned around and mocked me, calling me a stalker, even though he was the one who pursued me.
After ward, he discreetly tried to win me back, and I let him as he was charming and he made me believe that perhaps it was all in my head and he wasn’t really flirting. Then the reality hit again. He cavorted with prostitutes and loved loose, sloppy women, the sluttier the better. Slutty women, of course, loved him, since he enjoyed playing their games. Like them, they played without pity and without remorse, and were as loose as he was.
When I reacted in pain, he blamed me, mocked, and made it seem like it was all my fault, my problem, etc.
Something happpened and I snapped out of it. He again tried to win me back as he always had before but my heart was cold this time. I saw him for what he was.
The lesson here is: believe in your own feelings and intuition and only share with a man who truly is worthy of you. My current SO is devoted, kind, and makes me feel safe and loved.
Immoral men should date their own kind — like Blake and Holly. You could never handle Blake. Even though you’re both attractive, good people, you’re honest. He isn’t. A man like Ames never would have made you feel that way.
I dated a man at college who was a complete asshole. He liked me because I was a good woman and then cheated with women right in front of me while denying it. I remember how slutty woman would come over to him and bend over so he could get a look at their T&A. They rubbed up on him and jumped into his arms, claiming to be mere “friends.”
He denied they were anything more than friends, even referred to them as “Christian women.”
They all laughed at me when I accused him of cheating on me. His father even said, “If you accuse him of cheating, he might as well cheat, since you’re going to give him grief either way. He might as well do it.”
His father was an ass too, who had complete contempt for his wife.
Nevertheless, his women “friends” dressed in a sleazy fashion whereas my female friends and I were always stylishly dressed and respectful of ourselves and others.
We all knew that we could never entice a man the way they could. This guy drooled around them. His eyes would bug out of his head at the sight of a tight shirt or nipple indentation. He would stare at “camel toe.” His head would do a 180 whenever an “attractive’ woman walked past him.
No wonder, sluts gravitated towards him too. They aimed for indiscriminate attention. He, like Blake, was just the sort of indiscriminate man to give it to them.
As I found out later, this guy was dating multiple women at once and even trying to seduce the mothers of his friends. He was a serial bed hopper, even though he claimed to be a Christian man and that these obviously slutty women were Chrisitan women.
It’s hard being around this as you know your value and know what they are doing is wrong. Yet, these people have no conscience. Just like when you confronted Holly, she lied and said she flirted with all the guys while she was doing your man. Blake was all over you when he thought no one was looking. Holly could see nothng wrong her actions, neither could Blake. What do you want to bet, both will wind up with broken marriages and broken hearts.
I know it’s hard to process, when you approached a man with sincerity and he just abuses your heart. It hurts to the core.
One key is, pick men for character, not your sexual attraction. Typically the more one thinks about sex, the more sexy one is. Men like Blake radiate sex appeal. It’s really that he has sex on the brain.
Find a man who has higher thoughts, who puts God at the center of his life and who is respectful of women, and thinks they should be protected and cherished, not used.
Blake just want T&A. you saw that he just wanted “some ass.” Yes, that’s true — that, and Holly’s contacts from previous seasons of the show. Wanting some ass is not a reason to pursue a relationship, but it reflects the caliber of the man he is.
A good man would find women attractive but would not be so weak.
Youre a good woman. find a good man. Don’t let jerks like Blake get to you. You’re beautiful and smart and far too good for the likes of him.